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BRX Pro Tip: Prioritize Later

January 21, 2026 by angishields

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Stone Payton: Welcome back to Business RadioX Pro Tips. Stone Payton and Lee Kantor here with you. Lee, you shared a quote with me not long ago that I kind of got tickled with. Prioritize later.

Lee Kantor: Yeah, this is a quote from one of my favorite comedians, Jimmy Carr. He’s British, and he does a lot of crowd work on YouTube. And you can find it there.

Lee Kantor: He does a Q&A with the crowd, and one of the people asked him the secret to success in life, and he thought about it. And he says, “Prioritize later.” And then everybody laughed. And then, because they hear that and they think what he’s saying is just at some future point, start prioritizing.

Lee Kantor: But what he really meant was he wants you to make later the priority. So, the things that you should be putting off later, try to move them to the top of the list. If you prioritize later, then you’re going to be putting the energy into things that are going to pay off over time. And a lot of people don’t prioritize later. They prioritize right now, and they prioritize the distraction or the comfort, and they prioritize other people’s urgencies over their own.

Lee Kantor: And that’s why people laugh, because that’s what they think that he meant. And he didn’t mean that at all. He meant the complete opposite. Instead of prioritizing later, he meant schedule your priorities right now. Schedule your goals right now. Decide the night before what actually matters tomorrow. Block time for it right now. Protect that time right now. Put things in, like meeting with my biggest client, right now.

Lee Kantor: When you choose what matters on purpose, later stops running your life. So, I agree wholeheartedly. And if you want to succeed in life or business, you have to prioritize later.

From Local to National: Unlocking the Secrets of Business Success

January 21, 2026 by angishields

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In this episode of Scaling in Public, hosts Lee Kantor and Stone Payton, along with guest coach Todd Howard, discuss strategies for scaling their Business RadioX® studio network from Atlanta to a national level. The conversation centers on creating a replicable system, defining their Ideal Client Profile, and emphasizing their unique, relationship-driven approach. Todd offers advice on refining their messaging and infrastructure to attract the right partners, while the Lee and Stone reflect on differentiating their brand.

Todd-HowardTodd Howard is the founder of Grow A Niche Business.

He’s a positioning and product expert that helps founders find their niche and develop an ideal product or service for them.

Connect with Todd on LinkedIn.

Episode Highlights

  • Expansion of a business radio network from a local to a national presence.
  • Development of a replicable system to attract partners aligned with core values.
  • Challenges of scaling beyond the Atlanta metro area and reliance on face-to-face interactions.
  • Importance of defining an Ideal Client Profile (ICP) for effective sales and marketing.
  • Unique value proposition of fostering ongoing relationships rather than one-off interactions.
  • Provision of technical infrastructure and administrative support to ease client engagement.
  • Differentiation in the marketplace through relationship-building and comprehensive support.
  • Targeting professionals who prefer non-salesy approaches to client acquisition.
  • Strategies for enhancing messaging to emphasize ease of entry and relational focus.
  • Assignment of tasks to clarify unique business features and refine the ICP for better outreach.

Transcript-iconThis transcript is machine transcribed by Sonix

 

TRANSCRIPT

Intro: [00:00:08] Broadcasting live from our flagship studio in Atlanta, Georgia. This is scaling in public. The next 100 Business RadioX markets, featuring founders Lee Kantor and Stone Payton, along with some of America’s top coaches, helping them grow the network with real strategy, real lessons, and real accountability all shared in public. To learn more about the proven system that turns podcast interviews into a perpetual prospecting pipeline through generosity, not gimmicks, go to Burks Intercom and download the free Business RadioX playbook. Now here’s your host.

Stone Payton: [00:00:55] Welcome to another exciting and informative edition of scaling in public. Stone Payton Lee Kantor here with you and today’s coach, please join me in welcoming to the broadcast Todd Howard. How are you, man?

Todd Howard: [00:01:10] I’m good. Stone. Good to see you again.

Stone Payton: [00:01:12] Well, it’s a delight to have you joining us. We’re looking forward to great things. I’m going to turn it over to you and let you do your thing, man.

Todd Howard: [00:01:20] Okay. Well, good. Well, in preparation for this, I’ve, got I got caught up on all your documentation. Stone, you and I had half an hour to, uh, talk through things. Lee, I’d love to start with you, because I’m just now meeting you on this show. And I’d love to hear from your perspective what you’re trying to accomplish this coming year and and growing your business. And then kind of as a bonus question, what you think your biggest challenge is going to be in pulling that off?

Lee Kantor: [00:01:56] Well, uh, to answer your first question first, what we’re trying to accomplish this year is to grow the network and put in place a replicatable system that, puts the right people in front of us that want to partner with us, that kind of believe what we believe, that it’s important to serve local communities that might be struggling with prospecting as their issue in whatever their day job business is. And we’d like to get more people to be aware of how our service, uh, not only helps them with grow their day job business, but also serves and makes them an important component of the business community that they live in.

Todd Howard: [00:02:39] Got it. So what I took from that, check me on this, is I heard a couple things. One is you want a system that will attract the right people to you, a replicatable system, and then similarly to that idea, but a separate point. You want them to be aware of how you can help them.

Lee Kantor: [00:03:02] Right. So it’s we believe we have a business that helps people position themselves as a leader in their community. And the activity that they’re doing to demonstrate that is by being kind of the pro-business media outlet in their community. So if you do that work relentlessly, you get to have you get to become the media. And being the media has some benefits, and we like to show our partners how they can leverage the benefit of being a Business RadioX in their local market to help them individually grow whatever it is their day job business is. And on top of that, unlock some revenue streams. That being the media allows.

Todd Howard: [00:03:59] Gotcha. Okay, that’s a great answer. Thanks for that. So, Lee, what keeps you up at night when you think about trying to climb that mountain, what do you think is going to be the biggest obstacle or or challenge here for you?

Lee Kantor: [00:04:12] Well, the challenge, the challenge is that our our business organically grows locally and it’s organically grown locally by us doing the work pre-pandemic. We’ve been doing this for 20 years. So pre-pandemic we had studios in. We had we started with a studio in Atlanta, Georgia, where our guests would physically come into the studio and sit around a table and we would interview them about their business, and then just doing that activity face to face in person, looking each other in the eye. We were able to kind of generate, uh, other business people were saying, how do I get one of these for myself, and we get to show them how they can have their own show and how that would benefit them. And then by doing that over and over again, we got some folks that lived far, far enough away from Atlanta. As you know, you live here. You can get anywhere probably in 30, 45 minutes, but you’d probably rather not a lot of times. And you’d rather stick around your own, uh, suburb. And what we found is there’s some folks that live kind of far away, uh, just far enough away that they could do what we were doing in Atlanta in their own kind of exurb or suburb. And then we started having entrepreneurs partner with us and set up studios in and around kind of the outer perimeter of Atlanta. And and that was working great. And then Stone and I said, how about, you know, trying to get people all over the country to do this and replicate it and scale it. And that has been a challenge. We haven’t figured out how to do that efficiently or effectively. And that is really the thing that keeps me up at night, because I feel like we have a great service and we deliver great value, but we’re just not able to attract folks from outside the metro Atlanta area to understand the value that we deliver.

Todd Howard: [00:06:15] Got it. Okay, excellent. That’s going to be a nice segue into what we’re going to talk about today. So, the challenge that. So first off, just for the sake of, well, us and then listeners who may be following along to understand the context of where we are, uh, I believe I’m the second coach that you’ve worked with, Tricia being the first to kind of get you guys started. And what you identified in the first conversation is that one of the filters that you need to add as you’re talking to prospects is that you want to look for people who are part of a larger organization, because when you do that, you potentially tap into a larger pool of like minded people. That makes logical sense that that would bring you more candidates faster. So if you have an opportunity to talk to two people, one of them is in the middle of nowhere, Idaho, with no friends, or you’ve got somebody else as part of a large, thriving network. It’s an easy choice to say, let’s opt for guy number two, because there’s opportunity within his network to reach more people. So starting out, that sounds from what I’ve seen, from what Trish wrote up the starting point on how you guys can go from I believe it’s nine studio partners right now to the goal of 100.

Todd Howard: [00:07:47] So what I’m going to do is I’m going to help you think about your ideal client profile. And I may say ideal client profile. I may say ICP for anybody listening. That’s just the acronym I’m using. But I want to help you think about who these people are, because if you understand who these people are, you can find them more easily. And I realized that sounds so simple and so logical, but I can’t tell you how many times people miss this step of really identifying their ICP. And instead what they do is they spend a lot of money on sales and marketing to try and be very sexy and appealing to a bunch of people, hoping that if they can cast a wide net and look really attractive, that just by the sheer numbers game, they’re going to reach their goal and and bring all these clients to them. So to to boil that down even further, they they think it’s a sales and marketing effort. If we can just get sales and marketing right, we’re going to get the people we want. We have a quality product. The people are out there. We need good sales and marketing. That is a recipe for disaster in my mind. This is why people don’t like sales. People distrust marketing is because they believe that sales and marketing will solve this problem for them.

Todd Howard: [00:09:12] They invest all this time and money and it doesn’t produce results and they get frustrated. Now, the reason they get frustrated is because they’ve missed a step and that’s defining their ICP. So we’re going to spend our entire call today talking about how you can identify your ICP. If you do this successfully. Sales and marketing is relatively easier because it allows you to go to a marketer and a sales team and say, I work with that guy or that woman. This is where they’re at. This is the situation they’re in. This is their need. The more information you can give them on your ICP, the better chance they’re going to find it. But of course, if you don’t have your ICP and you walk in to a sales and marketing team, you can pay them all the money in the world. They’re going to have a hard time finding your ICP. So what we’re going to do is talk about how you can find your ICP. And if we can accomplish that, or at least get started in that, and you can really define that you will be successful as you go into sales and marketing. So let me take a breath right quick and make sure that all came across well. Does that make sense or do you have any questions about that before we get started?

Stone Payton: [00:10:32] I don’t have any questions. It works. That sounds good to me.

Lee Kantor: [00:10:35] Yeah. I mean boldly forward.

Todd Howard: [00:10:37] Okay. Let’s roll. So, first off, let me tell you what a little bit about what an ICP is. So one moment I’m getting my notes up here because I’ve been, uh, thinking through a couple ideas as we, as we get together. So your ICP, your ideal client profile is not just someone that you find attractive. Your ICP is someone that finds you attractive. Specifically, that means three things. They will buy from you. They’ll be able to use your product without difficulty, and they will quickly get the benefits that they were promised. So those are the three things I want you to have in mind. They buy from you. They can use what you have without difficulty, and they quickly get the benefits that they were promised. Now let’s talk about why these three things are important. If all you do is find people that want to buy from you, but six months later, they have difficulty working with your process, then here’s what’s going to happen. As you march towards 100 studio partners, you’re going to get about 20, and then about the time you’re selling the 21st, the first one you sold is starting to complain about something.

Todd Howard: [00:12:04] And after a while they may drop off because in the process of using your service, they’ve run into difficulty. And so now for every person you add because you’re very sellable, people are buying what you have. You’re losing somebody on the back end. And so in the march to get 100 people, you get to about 20 and you stay there and you’re turning over 20 people every few months. They buy, they come in, they can’t use it, they bail. And that’s where a lot of companies find, uh, find themselves. And the reason is because they thought about their ICP as just a buyer. We don’t want a buyer. We want a buyer who can use what you have without difficulty and quickly see the benefits they were promised. If they buy what you have. They use it with ease and in a short amount of time they see the benefits they were promised. They stick. And as a result, you’re able to line up 100 people and hopefully keep most of those 100 people. Make sense?

Lee Kantor: [00:13:11] Yeah, and I feel pretty confident that we have something that’s going to deliver in the manner you described.

Todd Howard: [00:13:17] Yeah. Yeah, I do too. I think that you guys have been doing this long enough. You’ve worked out the kinks. I think that that part is, is probably pretty solid. Okay. So let’s talk about how we define your ICP. There is one. Well, let me back up and say most people really struggle with this because there’s never been a methodology to find your ICP. Most of it is anecdotal. Most times people will say, you find your ICP by looking back and figuring out who has purchased from you in the past, whoever purchased from you in the past and stayed. They must be your ICP. That’s kind of a weak logical argument that we could dismantle if we had enough time. The past is not a good indicator of future success when it comes to ICP. There is one thing that I have found that allows you to find your right ICP, and that is a unique approach. If you have a unique approach at solving a problem or creating an opportunity, and that unique approach matches the situation of a certain subset of the market, that subset of the market will buy from you. The reason that they will buy from you, that they will easily implement what you have and see the benefits, is because the approach you have developed fits their situation. So it all comes down to this. In order to find your ICP, we need to understand what your unique approach is. Once we have your unique approach in hand, we will easily be able to figure out who your ICP is because it’s the people who get the biggest benefit from your unique approach.

Todd Howard: [00:15:23] Now, I’m going to give you two examples of this so that we can really solidify this idea. And then we’re going to move into figuring out what your unique approach is. The first person is somebody I’m sure that you’re aware of. And I told Stone about this when we met earlier. Simon Sinek. Simon Sinek is wildly successful. We all know who he is, and the reason we know who he is is because we know his unique approach. Simon Sinek is the leadership and development coach. There are millions of leadership and development coaches over the past several decades, but Simon stands out because he’s taken the approach. He believes that inspiration is what moves people. It’s not the carrot, it’s not the stick, it’s inspiration. And if you can find out what’s inspirational about you and tell others about it, they will follow you. They will buy from you. And that’s what makes good leaders is the ability to inspire others. So Simon Sinek doesn’t come out and say, I’ve been doing leadership and development coaching for 25 years, or I really believe that people could be good leaders. He doesn’t waste his time saying any of that. He spends all his time telling us about his unique approach and as a result, anyone who believes there’s something inspirational about what they do says, I want to work with Simon.

Todd Howard: [00:16:50] I will pay five times the amount of money to work with Simon because his unique approach fits me. Non-profits do this. They believe there’s something inspirational about them. Non-profits are in Simon’s ICP. Interestingly enough, so is the US military. Us military, especially certain branches of the US military believe there’s something very inspirational about what they do. And so Simon works with them. So what I want you to notice there is that Simon has made a decision not to get out and talk about how he feels about US leaders, or his years of experience or anything like that. He talks about one thing his unique approach and people whose situation fits his unique approach are his ICP. They present themselves. Once he knows his ice. Once he knows his unique approach. I’ll give you another example. There’s a financial planner. I’m sure you’ve heard of Dave Ramsey. Dave Ramsey is again a financial provider in a world full of planner, financial planner, in a world full of financial planners. But Dave Ramsey has put together a unique approach which has made him quite famous. He put together his baby steps. Step one you do this, step two, you do this, and so on. You’re probably familiar with some of them. Now, the reason that that approach is so impressive is because when he did that, he removed conflict. From people trying to figure out what to do with their finances. Financial conversations are conflict oriented by nature. You get two people in a room and you say, we got to clean up our finances.

Todd Howard: [00:18:41] What do we do? You got two different answers. So what Dave Ramsey does is he comes in and he says, I don’t care who you are or what you do. I want you to put $1,000 aside for an emergency fund. That is step one. And then step two and step three and so on. And when he does this, he removes conflict from the conversation. Now, who are Dave Ramsey’s ideal clients? Young married couples. That’s why it is very typical for a church or an organization full of young couples to run a Dave Ramsey course, and that session to be full, because young couples are prone to conflict when they talk about finances. And so Dave Ramsey’s approach removes conflict and gets him on the same page and moving forward. As a result, everyone knows who Dave Ramsey is, but you’d be hard pressed to name two other financial planners. So that’s how a unique approach works. Dave Ramsey and Simon Sinek didn’t sit around and say, well, I’d like to work with these people or I’d like to work with those people. They put that out of their mind because that’s a wish list. We don’t want to deal with that. And instead they worked on developing their own unique approach. Once they had their unique approach, they were able to see who their ICP was. And when they went to talk to that ICP, they were able to convey what they needed to to get that ICP to buy from them.

Todd Howard: [00:20:20] So, Lee, I asked you at the beginning of this call, what do you believe are your, your biggest challenges? And one of the ones that you, uh, that you told me about is reach. You’ve grown locally, virally to some extent, because people saw you do what you did and they liked you. They liked it. And so you went from Atlanta to outside Atlanta and you’ve kind of gotten that far. But what you need is something more portable so that you can talk to somebody in San Diego who’s never been on Business RadioX, never seen it. How do you get that person to buy? The way you get them to buy is that you develop a unique approach. Once you explain your unique approach to them, they’re able to say, that fits the situation I’m in, I want to buy. So again, let me take a breather for a minute because I want you guys to be able to ask questions. But the main point that I wanted to bring this to so far is that the unique approach is what you need to develop in order to figure out who your ICP is. If you don’t have a unique approach, then no one has any reason to choose you and therefore you do not have an ICP. So ask me any questions before we start taking a look at some of the information you guys have sent over.

Lee Kantor: [00:22:01] Would it be useful if we told you what our approach is? And then you tell us if that’s unique?

Todd Howard: [00:22:09] Absolutely. So I have you guys have sent over a few bullet points in email. Is that what you would tell me about, or is there something else that you’d describe as your unique approach.

Lee Kantor: [00:22:25] Well, I mean, let’s define unique approach a unique approach to what?

Todd Howard: [00:22:31] Okay. Unique approach to creating the value proposition that you were offering. So you have a value proposition that at the end of working with you or as a result of working with you, someone is a studio partner. They’re developing relationships. They have multiple income streams. Those are fantastic. People are really going to enjoy that. However, it could be argued that many of those bullet points you sent me on email could also be accomplished through podcasting or potentially something else entirely. So tell me about the unique approach that you take in accomplishing those goals that would make someone say, oh, that approach fits me really well.

Lee Kantor: [00:23:20] Stone, do you want to take this or what do you want to do?

Stone Payton: [00:23:23] I mean, yeah, I can get this conversation going because I do feel like we do things a great deal differently than most people who are trying to leverage this platform to help people and make money. You know, I’m in Cherokee County, Georgia, a little town called Woodstock. I have a feeling it’s like this all over the place. You can’t swing a dead cat in Cherokee County without running into a podcaster. And so I have conversations with them. Of course, we have a lot of brand equity here. You know, in Georgia, I guess you would say for sure. And as I get to talk, they don’t do anything the way we do it. They really do. Like they try to go out and get a big audience, and they take great pride and continue to strive to get people to download the shows. And they count the the downloads and the views and all that stuff and like, just just right out of the box, you know, Lee and I from day one, it’s certainly what I found inspirational when I jumped on his coattails. What is it? It was all geared toward genuinely serving the person across the desk.

Stone Payton: [00:24:27] We weren’t doing virtual stuff back then at all. Uh, and and building a real relationship with that person. And, uh, even if they weren’t a prospective client. Just when they came in to be interviewed. Just doing everything we could to support and celebrate that person. And then because of that, the people who could benefit from from what Lee had set up, you just had such a you had such a deep, genuine, authentic relationship with someone so fast, like every other way I’d ever seen anybody try to build relationship and serve. Not that it wasn’t valid, it just took a long time. And this, I mean, so much so fast. So everything we’ve built is around that ethos of genuinely trying to help the other person, supporting and celebrating them. And then and then teaching them the mechanics that we employ, which are apparently a great deal different than the mechanics that most people employ. So I mean, just right out of the box, I would say our relentless focus on relationship as the foundation for growing your business and helping your clients grow their business. Would you agree with that, Lee?

Lee Kantor: [00:25:38] Yeah. I mean, the premise of our business is to help our clients get one more client. Like, that’s what the objective is. So what we do is help our clients build the relationships they need with the people most important to them in an elegant, non salesy way that starts with service, that ends with service, that it’s all about helping the client or the person we’re working with get the outcome they desire. And we use podcasting. We use having a studio, we have certain tactics we deploy in order to do that, but it might look to the outside person as, oh, we’re a podcast production company, or we are a podcaster, and that is how we do what we do. But it isn’t the why we do what we do. We the why behind our business is helping our clients become that trusted authority, that go to person, that mega connector in their community to help them get the outcome they desire, whatever that might be.

Todd Howard: [00:26:54] Okay, okay. Those are really good. So you guys are are relationship oriented. Uh, it’s very clear that you’re helping people develop those relationships. I like the one client at a time thing or the next client. However, you said that those are all very valuable. Uh, I’m going to say something that is going to be a little painful and I don’t mean it to, but it’ll help to just kind of cut to the chase, because I want to help you guys get to the other side of this. Those are indefensible value propositions. In other words, a podcaster could say the same thing. Now, you might be able to look at them and say, oh, but we mean it. We know we’re we know we’ve internalized this. We’re good at it. Our clients see it. And other podcasters, they can’t pull it off. But on the surface, from a marketing and sales standpoint, many other companies can say what you just said. So what I’d like to do is I’d like to try and create a defensible position for you by enhancing part of your approach so that you can say something. And others would say, yeah, no, we don’t do that. That is absolutely them. We do not go to that extent or that trouble to do any of that stuff Us. If we can do that, create a defensible position for you. Now we know what is going to attract someone to you versus others who will say the same things you are saying. So, I forget which one of you said it, but I think it was Lee. I think it was. You said mechanics. You guys have certain mechanics in place that allow someone to pull this off. Tell me a little bit about the mechanics that you train them on or introduce them to, or maybe do on their behalf that allow them to build the relationships in the community and all of that.

Lee Kantor: [00:28:53] Well, one of the things I think one of our strong suits is that our brand of Business RadioX. So, like, say you’re that person. I think you use San Diego as the as the kind of, okay, this is a person that’s outside of our network that doesn’t have any ties to us at all. And I can show you how they would benefit from being part of Business RadioX rather than being, you know, Bob’s podcast in San Diego. So if they’re Business RadioX in San Diego, we create a web page for them on our website that when they invite a guest to be part of the San Diego Business RadioX show, they’re going to a page that has just hundreds of thousands of business interviews from people all over the place. So they’re going to have instant credibility when they just turn, flip the switch to be the San Diego Business RadioX studio partner. So they get credibility a go. They don’t have to kind of build any authority. They already have it built in by being affiliated with the brand. We look the part of a business kind of talk network because we are one and we’ve been doing it for 20 years. So they get that at go and they also get kind of our methodology at go to, they don’t have any more learning curve of how to go about and approach a, uh, prospective guest for their show. And they don’t have to convince a prospective guest as much to come on this show because it already looks the part, as opposed to if they are starting from scratch, they are going to have to kind of earn their way up the ladder to get in front of people that they want to get in front of.

Todd Howard: [00:30:50] Got it. So two things I wrote down there is one, it sounds like you have an infrastructure. You listed several things. I just had time to write down. You you have land. What I would consider landing pages built out. So there’s the opportunity to have templates and just technical assets in place from day one. So that is significant. That is something people won’t easily get somewhere else.

Lee Kantor: [00:31:15] And they’ll also get administrative help in executing the show. So they don’t have to have any technical expertise other than, you know, talking to people. Uh, Stone likes to say all we want our partners to do is just make friends and press record, and then we’re going to take the rest of that, uh, technical lift off their plate and also insert them into a platform that already has distribution. It has everything in place in order to execute, uh, the show that they’re trying to execute.

Todd Howard: [00:31:49] Got it. Okay, okay. That’s three. That’s excellent. So I’ve got you have an infrastructure, a ready made infrastructure. A ready made infrastructure. Instructions on how to get a guest. So it sounds like in my mind that means a bulleted list of step one do this. Step two do this so that someone has a script on how to go get a guest. It’s very effective. And then the third one I’m hearing you say is administrative help on the back end. So they hit record. They have a conversation, they go to lunch and ta da! At the end of it, there’s a show. Yeah.

Lee Kantor: [00:32:33] And then we also give them instructions on how to create the bridge from the show to getting the client that they’re trying to get at the end of the day. So it’s kind of A to Z methodology from who do I. Who would I like to meet. What kind of people do I want to meet more of? Here’s a roadmap to meet those people and a system that helps you meet and serve those people, and then also a bridge to help them go from that meeting to a conversation about why they should pick them for whatever it is their business is.

Todd Howard: [00:33:09] Got it? Okay. Okay. That’s effective. There may be some more, but for the sake of time, those are four really good ones. So I’ve got a ready made infrastructure. Instructions on how to get a guest, administrative help on the back end to relieve the technical burden, and then a bridge to take them from being a guest to a client. And that’s where you get that multiple income stream, uh, value prop that you were talking about.

Lee Kantor: [00:33:38] Did I leave anything out, Steph?

Stone Payton: [00:33:39] No, I don’t think so. I think it might be possible if someone were listening to this and trying to figure out, like, hey, what’s so great about Business RadioX it? I mean, there’s a ton of stuff when we say infrastructure, we’re talking about workflow mechanics, hosting, mechanics, sales mechanics, all of that stuff. All of that has been baked extremely well in that recipe has been fine tuned over the last 20 years. This thing works. It always works. It never doesn’t work. If you follow our methodology. I don’t care who you are or where you are. If you will do it our way, it will work, you will build those relationships, and a lot of those folks will write you checks, and a lot of them will tee you up with people who will write you checks. So it’s all A to Z. I mean, it literally is. Every single aspect of it has been thought out, tested in the fires and and we have it.

Todd Howard: [00:34:37] That’s great.

Stone Payton: [00:34:37] I promised Trisha I’d take my sales hat off, but it really is very well baked, Todd. For the local thing. What we don’t what’s part of it is what’s frustrating for us, what we don’t have well baked is our thing to get more people to do it. But in any given community, I can drop us into San Diego and let us work with the guy. We’ll have him set, you know, it’s it’s.

Todd Howard: [00:34:59] Got it. And why is that? What’s missing?

Stone Payton: [00:35:00] The things you’re talking about. Okay. Being able to articulate an inspirational message that’ll have the San Diego guy get on the phone with me.

Todd Howard: [00:35:12] Got it.

Lee Kantor: [00:35:12] Right. So that’s the. I mean, that’s the heart of our frustration. If Stone and I believe if you just dropped us any. If you took either one of us individually and dropped us in any city in the country, he or I could do this. We feel probably 100% confident that in pretty much any market in a short period of time, by us doing the activity, we know it works. We would quickly become a go to business resource in that environment, in that city, in that town, anywhere in the country. If we know what to do, to insert ourselves into that market, to become known, liked and trusted in a short period of time just by doing the activity. We know that works because we’ve done it so many times.

Todd Howard: [00:36:03] Yeah.

Lee Kantor: [00:36:04] Challenge is to get a stranger to believe what we say is true. And I think it goes to your point of that bigger why about what is the thing that is going to kind of connect them to the mission more than the results. And they got to believe what we believe that it’s important to be somebody in a local market should be that evangelist for that local business community and be the one that’s telling the stories. And if you get to wear that hat, then you are going to benefit financially. It’s going to help you grow your day job business. And we haven’t been able to articulate that. Why? Uh, effectively.

Todd Howard: [00:36:44] Got it. Okay. So I’m going to back up a couple steps. I really like what you’re saying here. So what I what I’m hearing is that if you guys could get on a plane and go up in the San Diego market, great. What that tells me is that the magic of your company, your product, and therefore your unique approach is in your heads, and we got to get it out so that it becomes portable. And once someone once you explain to somebody what you do, they go, great, I want to do it. Where do I start? And they can take that step without you guys holding their hands. That is a process of enhancing your product so that it is ready for someone to grab hold of and go. And that is going to be a very important component in you guys growing to your 100 site goal. People will not buy your product because they believe the way you believe. Now, I’m not I’m not gonna I’m not gonn, sit here and argue with Simon Sinek. Finding your why is important. All that stuff is important. What I’m telling you is that’s what everyone else is doing. Everyone else is explaining why something is important, why they should step up and go after it and do it. What you guys need is not a belief, it’s an on ramp. You need a very practical product that allows someone to go from zero to step one to step two on their own, independent from you. I think that’s the thing that’s missing. You guys are high on belief, but low on a tangible product that someone can operate without you. And as a result, it’s going to be very difficult for people to grab hold of what you’ve got and stick with it. If you go back to that definition of what an ICP is, it’s someone that buys your product but can easily implement it on their own and see the benefits in a short amount of time. So I have no doubt that it works and you guys can do it. But can the guy in San Diego? It sounds like that’s the rub.

Stone Payton: [00:38:58] Well, I mean, well, we got nine people in Georgia. Well, we got seven in Georgia and one in Arizona and one in Houston. That can do it using all of our stuff. So is it articulating the one? I wonder if it’s not more articulating or making available more details about the on ramp.

Todd Howard: [00:39:18] Because it’s probably a function of both.

Stone Payton: [00:39:22] Okay.

Todd Howard: [00:39:23] You guys are now forced to do something you haven’t had to do before. You’ve always been in the room with somebody, with the exception of your Houston studio partner. Now you’re trying to roll this on a larger scale. What you guys have to do is enhance your product, enhance your approach with additional details and information so that someone can grasp this, understand, oh, this this works really well for my situation. And then start working with it on their own and make progress. And that is a function of enhancing and developing your unique approach. I think conversationally you have a unique approach, but when it becomes something tangible, then someone can take action. So I’ll go back to the two examples I gave Simon Sinek. He talked about inspiration and we all went, oh wow, that’s great. And then he said, I want you to find your why. And he did a real deep dive. He said this is step one. Find your why. And when he did that people took action. Dave Ramsey same thing he was. He wanted people to get out of debt, get your financial house in order. And everybody went, yay! We like that a lot. What do we do though? And he said, baby steps put $1,000 in an envelope. And everybody went got it.

Stone Payton: [00:40:43] And it was saying a lot. He’s saying a lot of those things. And Simon is saying a lot of those things before they ever write a check. It’s just as a result of making that information available. Then they’re drawn in to writing a check to get the real system and all. Is it? So I’m I’m sensing that some of these things that we’re saying are so great that we put together, we got it all figured out. It sounds like we may need to consider making more of that public available here. Have this. You’re going to be a lot better. You know, we got we have cracked the code on this thing. And here’s our baby steps or here’s our thing. And then that draws them in close enough to have a real conversation about setting up a shop in San Diego, as opposed to having that wall there. Am I hearing that right?

Todd Howard: [00:41:26] That is exactly right. You need to be able to explain your unique approach. That will allow people to go, I can do that. That fits my situation really well. I don’t have much time. The fact that they have a technical team that publishes these things after I get done recording, fantastic podcasters don’t have that. The fact that they have instructions on how I Acquire clients. Well, that’s a big time saver. I’m intimidated. I don’t even want to try and figure that stuff out. The fact that they can bridge people over to a long term, uh, sort of sub client who’s running a show out of my studio, that’s fantastic. All of these are elements of your product, and collectively they describe an approach that allow people to say, I like that approach. Of all the approaches out there that put me on a microphone with a person, I like Business RadioX approach. So yeah, it’s Tony, you’re exactly right. You have to enhance this stuff, clarify it, and then you put it out there for free in your sales and marketing so that your ICP can see your approach and say, they’re the ones for me.

Todd Howard: [00:42:44] Okay. Once you have this unique approach, really well understood, It’s rather simple to back into who your ICP is. And I just gave you a couple of, you know, pieces right there. If you guys have administrative help on the back end. This tells me you are not going after one of the geeks that says, oh, I want to know what kind of mic to buy. No, you want somebody who wants to be told what kind of mic to buy. They want somebody else to publish the show for them, build the templates for them. So this is probably somebody that has thought I’d get into podcasting if I didn’t have to geek out and learn all this crap. And you come in and say, well, let us tell you about our approach. And they realize, oh, you guys have all that figured out. And it’s beyond mikes and lighting. It’s instructions on how to walk into a networking meeting and attract a client, and then roll them into a long term show client. Now you’re speaking my language, and now I’m starting to understand who your ICP is.

Stone Payton: [00:43:50] Okay.

Lee Kantor: [00:43:52] So we’ve been focusing and maybe this has been the wrong approach on people. We in our minds, the problem our system solves is the prospecting problem. The the the kind of foundational thinking that launched the company was people have a hard time having that first conversation with someone that’s important to them. And we developed a system that allows them to elegantly have that first conversation with the people they most desire to meet in an elegant, non salesy manner. That’s that’s the premise of the entire business. And we do that through, you know, doing our interviews and we created a playbook to that end where we say, hey, do you have a problem reaching the people that are important to you? Do these steps, and then you’re going to see that if you do these steps, this is going to solve that prospecting problem. Not only will it solve it once, it’ll solve it forever. Because as part of our methodology, each of the people that raise their hand to say they want to be interviewed, a good a high percentage of them are going to refer you to the next person. That might be a good person to be interviewed, which all should be somebody that’s a prospect for you in some form or fashion. So we have a playbook that kind of delineates that. But what I’m hearing you say that maybe the prospecting, the person with prospecting challenge isn’t the right person, that it’s more the person that is the aspiring podcaster. Am I hearing you wrong or what’s your thinking there?

Todd Howard: [00:45:43] The based on what you just said, the ideal client that you’re looking for is somebody who needs that easy on ramp to have those initial conversations and then take their client through the phases of being the initial being, uh, showing up for an initial show and then moving them to a long term client where they have their own show within your studio, that playbook, that’s where your magic is. It’s that stuff that I think you guys have sort of committed to memory and internalized, which is why if we could drop you in San Diego, you’d pull it off. But if it’s not portable, if you can’t, if you can’t lay that approach out for somebody very clearly so that they can do that on their own, they’re going to struggle.

Lee Kantor: [00:46:34] So what is the what is the challenge that this person is having before they should hire us Or at least learn more about us.

Todd Howard: [00:46:44] Yep. So let’s take a look at the four mechanics that you laid out a while a while ago, and think about who needs that. So ready made infrastructure. I wrote down landing pages, but you said quite a bit of of things that you guys have ready made. To me, this is someone, uh, your ICP has no technical, technical talent or interest. The fact that you have something ready made is very attractive. They’re probably the opposite of a geek that would enjoy learning all that stuff. They don’t want to learn all that stuff. Okay, let’s do the second one. Instructions on how to get a guest. This is someone who’s not a natural salesperson. Yes, sales is part of it. Sales probably intimidates them. So if you can appeal to the fact if you can, if you can help them understand that the fact that they don’t like sales is actually a strength in this case, because it is relationship oriented. Here are instructions on how to get a guest via relationship, not sales. That’s certainly a one liner that they that will appeal to them. And so now there’s a bunch of people sort of on the platter of potential ICP that we can just wipe off the list and go, nope, we don’t want those guys that are out, you know, wheeling and dealing. It’s the other guys administrative help on the back end. This is another piece of evidence that this is someone that does not want to get involved in the technology.

Todd Howard: [00:48:24] They want the outreach without the pain and effort of figuring out how to do it. This is probably someone who is not involved in social media, but they know they should be. If you were to add a social media element to what you do. They love it. They know they need it. They just don’t want to learn it. Distribution, wider audiences, all of that. These are things that just scare them. And then the bridge from the show to the client turning this into a long term value proposition for their client. That requires a lot of really good instruction. And if you were to enhance that. This is somebody who wants to not be in sales mode. They don’t want to be. They want to feel like they’re they’re doing these cold calls all the time. They want to build one relationship and see that relationship be incredibly fruitful over time. And you can easily delineate that from podcasting. Podcasting is find a guest, do a show, find a guest, do a show. You’re always shopping for guests. What you guys do is you find a guest, you develop a long term relationship and you help them find and keep people forever. I would emphasize the keeping part finding. We help you find people. We help you keep people. And this is somebody that sales makes them tired. They don’t want to do it. Relationships. They love that.

Lee Kantor: [00:49:58] So right now our avatar has been coaches, consultants, people in professional services. You know, the people that are kind of selling the invisible, selling more service than a widget. Do you think they were on the right track with that, or do we have to kind of segment that down even further?

Todd Howard: [00:50:18] I would segment that down even further. We’re getting into a bit of psychographics here, which you guys have given me, leads me to psychographic conclusions. If I had more information about your unique approach, we would probably get into some of the professional demographics. Off hand coaches are certainly primed to want relationships. If it’s somebody that’s coming out of corporate and what they did in corporate was not sales oriented, and now they’re in a place where they have to build those relationships, they will feel uncomfortable selling themselves. So yes, I can see a subset of coaches being a good a good group here. I do not see you as an alternative to podcasting on the surface. And so I would say don’t compare yourself to podcasters. I don’t. I’d rather you not be an alternative to podcasters, because when you do that, you all of a sudden make your ICP podcasters and you say, we’re an alternative to podcasting because we do it this way. I think your ICP never even thought about being a podcast. They probably listened to them. They might be developing a networking meeting, which on its own is a version of developing a community. But networking meetings are exhausting in their own way, and you might be able to say, okay, stop running your free networking meeting. Start doing this instead because it’s good for the people in your network that’s going to appeal to somebody who runs a networking meeting and is tired of it.

Lee Kantor: [00:51:54] Now, what we’ve been thinking lately, that like some of the, like you said earlier, that a point of leverage is maybe a larger person who runs a larger group, whereas access to a larger group, a lot of thes organizations that have larger groups, you know, business organizations, one of the things they recommend members do is kind of join those, uh, BNI type networking groups as part of their way of going to market. And we were trying to position ourselves, like you said, maybe not as an alternative to going to a BNI, but a different way of approaching those BNI where instead of going to the BNI and saying, hey, I’m Bob, I’m a CPA, you’re going and saying, hey, Bob, I’m uh, you’re going to the networking meeting and saying, hey, I run San Diego, Business RadioX, and I’m looking for interesting guests. So now when they go to those meetings, they’re positioned slightly differently in their ask is different. Instead of saying, buy my stuff, it’s more of, hey, I’m here to support and celebrate the ecosystem we’re all in, and I can do that because I, I’m a Business RadioX partner.

Todd Howard: [00:53:15] Okay. So you can you can see this for one of the people that run a BMI, BNI group or go to a BNI group for them to step outside of this and and do what you guys are doing. Is that what you’re saying?

Lee Kantor: [00:53:26] Well, that if you are a BNI, if you run the BNI group, you can use what we’re doing as a way to give voice and help every one of your members be more successful, because now you’re giving them a place, a platform to tell their story in a more public manner rather than in this closed group setting. Number one. Number two, if you are just a member of a BNI, now you can go into that BNI meeting, not just as a member that’s trying to create leads for yourself, but you can go in there wearing the hat of I’m the media so I can tell everybody here their story so I can help everybody here get the word out about the great work that they’re doing. Because a lot of folks, at least the ones that we’ve been interviewing that are in professional services, one of their pain points is they feel like they’re a best kept secret, that they do good work, but nobody knows they exist. So we become a vehicle to help them get the word out, to tell their story, and to tell other people’s story. Uh, at the same time.

Todd Howard: [00:54:41] Okay, I like that. So I think we’re a lot closer than we were an hour ago when we started with this. We’re now thinking in terms of your ICP is someone you find by looking through your unique approach. So now we’re really getting specific about what your unique approach is. And as a result, we’re starting to find potential candidates. That’s the direction that this conversation needs to go. And so I just want to capture that this is the right way to think. Even if we don’t land on the answer on the show, this is the right way to think about it. Lee, I really like what you just said. One of the things that I hear as we walk through all of this is that your product develops relationships. It sets a stage. It allows people to come in and sort of show what they’re. What they do is their best kept secret. But I’d like to take that deeper. And if we had more time, that’s what I would recommend is let’s go deeper into that. If you walk into a meeting and you say, well, I’m the media, join me because I’m the media and people are sort of and, you know, again, I’m, I’m shortening all of this for the purpose of this conversation.

Todd Howard: [00:55:59] But if people are a little starstruck, oh, there’s the media. I want to get involved in this. I like that, but it’s not a defensible position because others can do that through podcasting and and maybe in time, various means. But there’s something that you guys do around investing in people in the long term. And that to me is where the fork in the road happens. Podcasting is a one and done. You guys are investing. You’re investing in your clients and you’re showing your clients how to invest in theirs. And I like that a lot. And I hear that that is thematic throughout everything that we’re talking about. What I would challenge you guys to do is figure out how do we how do we enhance our product to develop? To invest, to show people how to invest in other people, which may even bleed outside publishing a show. It may be helping them create an identity. For example, right now you guys have a Houston, a Houston business radio show. That’s great. Can the Houston Business radio show be known for one thing in particular and attract, uh, clients and speakers that really talk around that one thing.

Todd Howard: [00:57:29] And as a result, the Houston Business radio show isn’t just the Houston version of a larger radio show. It itself has its own identity. And therefore, people who come guest on that Houston business radio show know that they’re talking to a market that’s been cold because of its identity. Now I’m just making this up. We can have a whole process we could go through and figure this out. We’re not trying to do this right now. What I’m doing is I’m probing. I’m listening to what you’re saying. I’m thinking about what’s defensible and what’s not. The fact that you guys have a lot of ready made stuff is defensible. But thematically, one of the things you guys do is you’re investing heavily in your clients. But the real magic is between your client and their client. So that makes me want, since that’s the more defensible position, I want to enhance that further. What can you do? To invest. Between your client and your client’s client to develop those long term relationships where both of them are, are receiving tremendous amounts of value? To me, that feels very unique in a world of one and done conversations.

Lee Kantor: [00:59:00] So what would our homework be for next week?

Todd Howard: [00:59:04] Okay, homework for next week. I would say, uh, go back to the bullets that you guys went through where I asked you what is unique about your business and just take a look through there. A lot of those things you can cross off the list now. They’re valuable, there’s no doubt, but they’re not necessarily unique. I want you to look for the strongest card in your hand to play. In my mind so far with this conversation, I’ve seen two cards that you guys have. One is the fact that you’ve removed so much of the burden off of people with your technical infrastructure, the back end work, and so on, things we talked about. The other area where you’ve got a really unique opportunity is in helping your clients invest in their clients to build long term relationships and create something where your clients clients get tremendous value. So the exercise is look through those things. Pull out the best cards. I just told you what I think the two best cards are, and then figure out how you can enhance those. Once you’ve got those as good as you can get them. Then I want you to go through the exercise that we went through on this call and say, who needs that? For example, now that we know that some that all the technical work is done, we know that we’re looking for somebody that does not want to do any of that technical work at all.

Todd Howard: [01:00:31] They have really no interest in podcasting. If they weren’t going to work with Business RadioX, they weren’t going to be a podcaster, but they might run a networking meeting. So it’s relationships minus technology. We just got closer to understanding your ICP, and the reason we did that is because we started with your unique approach. So Stone and Lee, I would say look to the list you gave me. Think about the notes from this call. Pick the best cards in your hand to play. Then ask yourself, can we enhance this further to find this even better for people so that we can explain it to somebody in San Diego? And then the third step is, once you have that in your hand, Who would benefit the most from this and you will start describing your ICP. Once you have that exercise complete, this is what you carry into sales and marketing and you tell them, listen, we are not a radio show. We’re not going against the podcasters. That’s not what we do. This is what we do. This is what makes us unique. And you lay those two cards on the table and you say, these two cards will appeal strongly to these people. Now go get them. And that’s the rally cry for your sales and marketing team.

Stone Payton: [01:01:56] Fantastic, man. Well, this has been incredibly helpful for me. Lee.

Lee Kantor: [01:02:01] Yeah. Todd, we really appreciate, you working with us here. If somebody wants to learn more about your practice, where should they go?

Todd Howard: [01:02:09] Go to grow a niche comm and you can check out what I do. There’s only one button on the site. Schedule a call with me. Uh, and if you want, I. I offer for free. An opportunity to go through a little version of what we just spent an hour doing. Somebody can describe their business to me, and I’ll help them understand what they need to do to be more unique so that they can find their ICP and go, go take care of them.

Stone Payton: [01:02:34] Thank you so much, Todd.

Todd Howard: [01:02:37] Absolutely welcome. Stone and Lee is very nice to meet both of you.

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BRX Pro Tip: Tsunamis Get the Headlines, but Rivers do the Work

January 20, 2026 by angishields

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Stone Payton: Welcome back to Business RadioX Pro Tips. Lee Kantor and Stone Payton here with you. Lee, I took this lesson from my uncle/mentor years ago, but the grand gesture is one thing. But just the day-to-day is so much more powerful, typically over time, don’t you think?

Lee Kantor: Yeah. I’m a big believer in the power of compounding. And a lot of people prefer kind of the emotional roller coaster of these big launches or these big initiatives or a big push or a big challenge and then don’t do kind of the day-to-day work.

Lee Kantor: And there’s a saying that says that the tsunamis get the headlines, but the rivers are the things that do the work. And what that means is that consistent daily work is just more productive over time than random sprints, because consistent daily work compounds quietly over time. And over time, that is going to beat the dramatic headline-grabbing one-off pushes. It’s just a fact. Consistent daily work builds the skills, builds the systems, and builds the momentum in a way that random sprints just can’t.

Lee Kantor:Showing up every day to move key projects an inch forward instead of waiting for the big season that we’re going to get all the money and all the profits done. That just is not going to be conducive to a healthy, growth-oriented business. That’s just going to burn everybody out.

Lee Kantor: So, focus more on building repeatable processes, repeatable habits, daily pipeline reviews, small product improvements, regular customer touchpoints instead of these sporadic heroic rescue efforts.

Lee Kantor: Measuring progress by steady metrics, daily outbound, small user tweaks, incremental revenue lifts, rather than only celebrating a big launch or creating these kinds of fire drills.

Lee Kantor: Think about your workday as what is my river? What is the thing that I could be doing every day? What is that small, non-negotiable action that I can do every single day that, if I did that for a year, would change my business? That is going to be more effective than any short-term sprint ever could.

Navigating WBEC-West Resources: How Keywords and Portals Can Propel Your Business Forward

January 19, 2026 by angishields

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In this episode of Women in Motion, Lee Kantor and Renita Manley welcome BoWynn Ashworth, Sourcing Program Coordinator at WBEC-West. BoWynn explains her role in connecting women business owners with corporate opportunities by teaching them how to use effective keywords in their certification profiles. She clarifies the differences between the certification and resource portals, highlights the importance of collaboration among women entrepreneurs, and shares success stories. The episode emphasizes the value of WBEC-West’s resources, workshops, and personalized support to help women-owned businesses maximize their opportunities and growth.

BoWynn-AshworthBoWynn Ashworth is the Sourcing Program Coordinator at WBEC-West, where she leads sourcing initiatives that connect Women Business Enterprises (WBEs) to corporate and public-sector opportunities.

She oversees the WBE Resource Portal, manages sourcing efforts and strategic distribution of opportunities, facilitates educational workshops, and supports the Ambassador Program to ensure WBEs are prepared, positioned, and informed.

BoWynn is passionate about connecting WBEs with opportunities that align with the core strengths of their business and position them for long-term growth and success.

Connect with BoWynn on LinkedIn.

Episode Highlights

  • Importance of using keywords in WBEC-West certification profiles for women business owners.
  • Role of the sourcing program coordinator in connecting women-owned businesses with corporate opportunities.
  • Explanation of the sourcing process and how corporate members request specific capabilities.
  • Overview of the Keywords Workshop and its focus on developing effective keywords.
  • Introduction to the WBEC-West Resource Portal and its purpose for ongoing engagement and opportunity discovery.
  • Common mistakes made by women business owners regarding keyword usage.
  • Importance of collaboration among women-owned businesses for larger contracts and opportunities.
  • Discussion on the significance of B2B relationships and supplier diversity in accessing business opportunities.
  • Awareness and accessibility of resources and workshops offered by WBEC-West for women entrepreneurs.
  • Encouragement for women business owners to optimize their profiles and participate in workshops for better visibility.

Music Provided by M PATH MUSIC

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TRANSCRIPT

Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX Studios, it’s time for Women In Motion. Brought to you by WBEC-West. Join forces. Succeed together. Now, here’s your host.

Lee Kantor: Lee Kantor here with Renita Manley, another episode of Women In Motion, and this is going to be a good one. But before we get started, it’s important to recognize our sponsor, WBEC-West. Without them, we couldn’t be sharing these important stories. Today on the show, we have BoWynn Ashworth. Renita, this is going to be a great guest to tell us what’s going on.

Renita Manley: Yeah. So my team member, BoWynn, is here with us today. So, I really wanted to bring BoWynn on because as we go into 2026 and as we’re coming off our very much so successful 2025 conference, that was here in Phoenix, Arizona just this past December, I learned that a lot of WBEs still have a lot of questions about how to properly use keywords, and how they can access the portal, and the differences between WBENCLink, the portal, and keywords.

Renita Manley: So, I decided to bring BoWynn on today so she can clear things up for all of you WBEs out there, so you guys and ladies can stop missing all of these fabulous events that we are having and that’s coming up, especially if attending these events are based on how you are using your keywords. So, BoWynn is our sourcing coordinator. Is that correct title, BoWynn?

BoWynn Ashworth: Yes, the sourcing program coordinator.

Renita Manley: Yes. All right. So, can you please tell all the WBEs out there a little bit about yourself and how you help them leverage their certifications.

BoWynn Ashworth: Absolutely. So, I am responsible for a few different programs within WBEC-West. Initially, I was brought on to manage our sourcing program and to educate our WBEs on the importance of their keywords to be used in sourcing. Sourcing is when one of our corporate members or even a fellow WBE comes to me and says, hey, I am looking for a WBE with the following product, services, or capabilities, can you help me out?

BoWynn Ashworth: I strategically source for these better recommendations and provide recommendations based on their procurement, or invitation, or outreach needs. I also strategically distribute opportunities to our WBEs based on those keywords. I manage our WBE resource portal. And I have also taken on the ambassador program in 2026. So, I do quite a lot for our WBEs, but the main thing that you need to know is I am your gateway to connect you with opportunities.

Lee Kantor: So, can you give us a hypothetical of how it works in real life? Like a corporate will come up to you, you don’t have to name the name of a corporate, but what’s an example of something they would ask you?

BoWynn Ashworth: I’m going to totally make this up. So, let’s say that SRP comes to me and they say, “BoWynn, we would love to expand and do some construction. I need a woman-owned construction company that can do these capabilities in this area. Who can you recommend?” So then, I will search based on those keywords of what capabilities they need. If it’s like drywall, excavation, general contracting, I will search by those keywords on WBENCLink, pull a list. And then, I will actually go through and sort that list, kind of dig into each WBE and make sure that those that I’m recommending are a good fit for the request. And then, I will return that back to our corporate member.

Lee Kantor: Now, are you ever communicating with the WBE or their organization, or you’re doing all of this based on what keywords they kind of put into the system initially?

BoWynn Ashworth: It kind of depends on the request and how specific they are. Some of my requests are very in-depth with very specific capabilities. In that case, I will reach out to the WBE using the primary owner email address on file in the WBENCLink system and say, hey, I have a corporate member that is looking for X, Y, and Z, and I’ll lay out all the capabilities. I don’t disclose the corporate member because that’s usually asked to be left anonymous. But I will say, can you fulfill all aspects of this ask?

BoWynn Ashworth: If so, in that case, I usually ask them to return a capability statement to me. The reason I do that is I want to make sure that in all of their sourcing for all of these organizations that are WBEs are front and center and top of mind for these requests.

Lee Kantor: Now, is there any – go ahead.

Renita Manley: Before you – sorry, Lee.

Lee Kantor: Go ahead, Renita.

Renita Manley: Thanks, Lee. Before you go any deeper into this, BoWynn, what I would like for you to do is to explain to our WBEs the difference between the two webinars that you run. Because like I mentioned in the intro, we do have a lot of WBEs who are still kind of confused about the differences between your webinars. So, can you just introduce your two programs and then tell us about their differences.

BoWynn Ashworth: Absolutely. So, the Keywords Workshop is designed to help you come up with capabilities-focused keywords that you list in WBENCLink. You usually do that during recertification, and it will say capabilities of product and service provided. These keywords are what I search by when I’m sourcing to share strategic opportunities with and to source.

BoWynn Ashworth: So, it’s really important that your keywords are clear and it lists all of your capabilities. And we go more into that in the Keywords Workshop, what to include, best practices, and how your keywords can actually potentially sabotage those opportunities, either by misspelling, leaving them out, and I list a few other things too. I also walk you through the process to have them updated to make sure that they are current.

BoWynn Ashworth: So, sourcing uses the WBENCLink 2.0 portal. That’s how our WBEs become certified and recertified. It’s a little confusing at first because a lot of WBEs are like, “Okay, portal. I’m already in the portal.” Our WBEC-West WBE to WBE community portal is a completely different portal, completely different platform. But the exciting thing about this is it’s exclusive for our WBEC-West members. They can go in and they can find corporate opportunities, like a virtual job board. I list RFPs, I list grants, anything that comes to my desk that is public, I share in there. They can also find outreach events, corporate workshops. They can connect with other WBEs and collaborate on things like bids. And I walk you through all of this. There’s resources. Like, it truly is an incredible portal full of opportunities.

Renita Manley: Got it. Can you tell me one story or maybe make up a story, but a real life story would be more fun, can you tell us a story about maybe a WBE who might have missed out on an opportunity because her keywords weren’t updated properly?

BoWynn Ashworth: Yes, I actually had one that I came across and it was in the construction realm. I actually do receive quite a few construction related asks. And I was going through, after I had sent my recommendations, and upon actually talking to this WBE at our conference, and she told me everything she did. And I was like, You know what? I just had an opportunity that would have been perfect for you. Like absolutely perfect. You would have been at the top of the list. But you missed out because you had three or four keywords. Had you have had the appropriate keywords, you would have been top of mind and been recommended for this opportunity. But because you didn’t have those capabilities, focus keywords, and that your keyword section was lacking, she absolutely missed out on that opportunity and being recommended.

Renita Manley: Okay. Can you give me an example of maybe like a WBE who thought their keywords were all good? You know, they were in the system, they got their keywords going, and they’re like, yeah, I’m going to get all the opportunities. But can you tell me what she might have missed and how that messed up her opportunity?

BoWynn Ashworth: So, let’s go back to construction just because it’s on top of mind. So, they may say general contractor, construction, and they may list their NIC code. We’ll just say, I don’t know, make up a construction company name, Blue Dot Construction is a woman-owned construction business that does this, this, and this. And in all of that keywords, they have three capabilities, general contracting, something else, something else. So if I’m looking for drywall, if I’m looking for framing, if I’m looking for concrete, if I’m looking for any of those tasks, she’s not going to be included.

BoWynn Ashworth: So, it’s very important that they list all of their capabilities to make sure that everything that they are capable of and that they are proficient in that they list so that they’re not leaving anything on the table.

Lee Kantor: Is there a limit to the amount of keywords you can put in?

BoWynn Ashworth: Yes. So the system allows it to be 1,000 characters, including spaces and punctuation. So, we want to make sure we’re including our most relevant information first, because anything beyond that will be cut off. Great question.

Lee Kantor: Now in the webinar, are you going to help the person kind of prioritize the keywords that are the best ones to get them the most opportunities? Is that what happens in the webinar?

BoWynn Ashworth: So in the webinar, I give them the information on this is what we’re looking at, this is how the sourcing program works, these are some things to keep in mind, this is how to draft your keywords. Afterwards, I give them my contact information and encourage them to book one-on-one time with me to go through their keywords and make sure that they are up to date, and we have everything listed that we’re not missing anything, and that they are good to go upon changing them in the portal – or excuse me, submitting the form to have them changed in the portal.

Renita Manley: Well, speaking of the portal, we’ve done a lot of talking about the keywords, but I do want to discuss what’s the difference between the portal and WBENCLink.

BoWynn Ashworth: So, WBENCLink is where we do our sourcing. But for WBEs, it is where they go to submit their recertification. So, this is the portal where they put in all their documentation, they did everything to become certified or to be recertified. The WBEC-West WBE Resource Portal is a completely different portal that they have to request access for. It’s something that I monitor and make sure that only those who are actively certified within WBEC-West can access. But within that, they can find, like I mentioned before, a whole different ton of opportunities for corporate members, such as corporate supplier links, more information about our corporate members. But more than that, they can connect with each other.

Renita Manley: Okay, got it, got it. And I’m going to actually read some of this next question because I do not want to mess it up, because I know how important this piece is for you, BoWynn. So I know right now we’re hearing a lot about changes in corporate priorities around supplier diversity and DEI. And from what you’re seeing, BoWynn, how important are WBE to WBE relationships and collaboration in helping businesses continue to access opportunities and grow together?

BoWynn Ashworth: Absolutely. So, the first thing I want to say is our corporate members who have been engaged with us are still engaged with us. The ones that are committed to our WBEs, committed to supplier diversity, committed to champion women-owned businesses are still here. And in fact, our sourcing program experienced 63 percent growth over 2024. So despite all the changes in 2025, we had an absolutely amazing year. So, I don’t want anyone to think that WBEC-West is not working on your behalf because we absolutely are. We’re working harder than ever to bring our WBEs corporate opportunities.

BoWynn Ashworth: That said, I think there’s a lot of power in the WBE to WBE community and the WBE to WBE collaboration aspect, whether that is searching for a fellow WBE to partner with on a bigger contract, to secure a bigger contract, or a procurement opportunity. One thing we do, and we mentioned with sourcing, is, we source for our corporate members, but I’m also willing to source WBE to WBE.

BoWynn Ashworth: So if you are looking to partner with a fellow WBE on a bigger contract or something, you’re absolutely more than welcome to send me an email and I can help you find a WBE who may fit that. Also, for any procurement needs you have, maybe you have a website that needs an overhaul and you’d like to do business with a fellow WBE first, I’m absolutely happy to source that too.

BoWynn Ashworth: So yes, there’s power in the corporate connections, but there is so much yet to be discovered in WBE to WBE collaboration and connection.

Lee Kantor: Is there a story you can share about a collaboration that is memorable to you? Is there anything that comes to mind that maybe you run into that people said, hey, we met at the conference and we joined forces and now we got this thing.

BoWynn Ashworth: So, I have two that are top of mind. One, I had the pleasure, again, at our conference to watch two WBEs in the construction business talk about their bonding capacity, their capabilities. The one said I absolutely loved subcontract, this is what I do. And the other one said, I have unlimited bonding capacity, I would love to bring you on as a subcontractor. And they kind of discussed that. So, I thought that was super cool because there’s so much power in that, to be able to work together and unite to achieve those bigger contracts. So, that’s one that was super cool as far as collaboration and working together for bigger contracts.

BoWynn Ashworth: The second comes from WBE sourcing. And again, one of our amazing WBEs out of Colorado came to me, and this was before the WBENC National Conference in Denver, and she mentioned, you know, like the altitude and just worried about people not getting hydrated enough, “And I’m thinking I would love to do some hydration packets and pass them out at conference.” And I thought, that’s a great idea. So she said, “Can you help me identify a WBE that I can do that?”

BoWynn Ashworth: So, I found one for her. She purchased the product from her and included all of her marketing information and passed them out at the conference. And what that did was that highlighted not only her business, but it also elevated another WBE and brought attention to her product, which I thought was super cool.

Lee Kantor: Now, in your work, do you find that everybody is taking advantage of kind of you as a resource? It sounds like what you’re doing is extremely valuable, and it’s one of those kind of best kept secrets. Is this something that you’re like kind of going, how come more people don’t contact me? Or are you just slammed where you’re just overwhelmed with people contacting you?

BoWynn Ashworth: Dr. Pamela actually brought that up. She said, I’ve had so many WBEs that said I didn’t know what BoWynn does. I had no idea the value that BoWynn provides. So this is your PSA, hit me up. I’m here to help you. But yeah, there are so many WBEs that don’t fully understand the value of what I can provide and what I can connect them to. So my door is always open, my email is always open, always happy to connect. And yes, my inbox is never full enough.

Renita Manley: And even on a marketing side, for any WBE that’s listening, sometimes I hear I didn’t know you were having this type of event. I need events that are more so about this topic. And I’m like, hey, we just had an event about that topic. Sometimes I can go into the system, I’m not as great as BoWynn, right? But I can go into the system and play around with some keywords, and I can pull a list of WBEs and direct market events to them based on a corporate that’s going to be there, the topic that’s being discussed, or maybe some products that might be of interest for that particular event.

Renita Manley: And I can say, too, if your keywords didn’t show up, and you didn’t show up with those keywords, you might have missed out on an event that you could have attended and that you really could have benefited from. So along with that little side piece from marketing, I got to ask you, BoWynn, who specifically should be attending your workshops, and then can you share with us when your workshops are actually scheduled?

BoWynn Ashworth: Absolutely. Every WBE can and should attend both workshops. Reason being, keywords are critical for everything that I do, corporate sourcing, WBE sourcing, strategic sourcing, and like you mentioned, marketing too. And I highly recommend not only taking it, but just refreshing every other year before you get ready to recertify, in case there’s any changes within the sourcing program that you can keep up to date.

BoWynn Ashworth: And then as far as the WBE Resource Portal, again, it’s something that every WBE should be taking advantage of. Like I mentioned, I post opportunities in there such as RFPs and grants. That is continually changing. So, you’re going to want to make sure that you’re in there in the portal keeping up on it.

BoWynn Ashworth: As far as to answer your question as when, the WBE Resource Portal 101 is offered every single month in the year of 2026. The Keywords Workshop is offered every other month, and it will be the end of this month, so end of January. So we’ll have January, March, and it’ll be every other month in 2026.

Renita Manley: Okay. And I was going to say, if you’re just interested in attending those workshops, you can just go on to our website, W-B-E-C-hyphen-W-E-S-T.com, go to our calendar and register there. Or if you have any lingering questions, or if you’re hearing this and you’re like, I’m overwhelmed, what should I do next? Just email BoWynn because she is a queen and she’s wonderful. BoWynn, what’s your email address for everybody?

BoWynn Ashworth: It’s B-O-W-Y-N-N@wbec-west.org.

Renita Manley: Okay. Lee?

Lee Kantor: Good stuff. Well, BoWynn, you’re doing such important work, and really, the WBEs, even if they have a question, I’m sure you’re open to having conversations. You just want to talk to more people so you can let them know what they have to do to be more successful. I mean, this is a no-brainer. Any WBE that’s taking the time to get certified should spend a few minutes with you.

BoWynn Ashworth: Absolutely. I would love that. I am here, truly a champion of our women-owned businesses. Like my passion is connecting women-owned businesses with opportunities that help them to succeed and grow. So, anything that I can do to support our WBEs, I am absolutely here for it.

Lee Kantor: Well, thank you so much for sharing your story. You’re doing such important work and we appreciate you.

BoWynn Ashworth: Thank you so much.

Renita Manley: All right.

Renita Manley: Thanks for coming, BoWynn.

BoWynn Ashworth: Thank you. Thank you for having me.

Lee Kantor: All right. This is Lee Kantor for Renita Manley, we will see you all next time on Women In Motion.

 

Brian Dukes: Turning Experience Into Exit Wisdom for Founders

January 19, 2026 by angishields

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6-BrianDukesBrian Dukes is the Co-Founder of Exitwise, an M&A advisory platform focused on empowering business owners with education and transaction support for successful exits.

His career began in Big 5 Consulting, followed by an MBA from the University of Michigan.

Rather than taking a traditional MBA route, Brian joined a startup joint venture with Ford Motor Company, sparking his entrepreneurial journey.

He went on to co-found a technology and digital marketing agency that became a recognized leader in the automotive sector, where he also gained hands-on experience in mergers and acquisitions.

In 2022, Brian embraced the opportunity to scale Exitwise—bringing his strategic insights, operational know-how, and passion for helping founders unlock the full value of their businesses.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brdukes/
Website: https://exitwise.com/

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Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX studios in Houston, Texas. It’s time for Houston Business Radio. Now, here’s your host.

Trisha Stetzel: Hello, Houston. Trisha Stetzel here bringing you another episode of Houston Business Radio. I’m really excited about today’s guest and the topic. Today’s guest is Brian Dukes, managing partner at Exitwise and M&A advisory platform, helping business owners prepare and successfully navigate the sale for their companies. Brian’s journey started in Big Five consulting, followed by his MBA at the University of Michigan, and instead of taking the corporate route, he joined a Ford Motor Company joint venture and then co-founded a digital marketing agency that became an industry leader in automotive technology. After building and selling that business, he discovered his passion for helping other founders through the exit process. Today, Brian and the Exit Whys team are reshaping how entrepreneurs think about exits, removing the stigma, focusing on readiness, and teaching owners how to build companies that are ready for whatever comes next. Brian, welcome to the show.

Brian Dukes: Thank you so much.

Trisha Stetzel: I’m really excited about our conversation today because I think we both have this passion around this topic. But before we get there, tell us a little bit more about Brian.

Brian Dukes: Is it a natural reaction to always feel a little bit embarrassed when you hear your own intro? Yes.

Trisha Stetzel: And I do that on purpose because we don’t take the time to do it for ourselves. So I did it for you. It is my gift.

Brian Dukes: Well, I appreciate it and you know it. It is my story. It’s a summation of a 20 or 30 or so year professional career. And I’m super passionate and appreciative and excited about what I’ve done. But, you know, to put it into. And full sentences like that, it’s always, always nice to hear. So thank you. Um, you know, it summarized, uh, pretty, pretty well, a lot of the ways that my, uh, my. Professional wins have blown. I mean, really? Yeah. In summary, I didn’t know anything about entrepreneurship when I was growing up. My growing up in metro Detroit, uh, my dad worked at Ford Motor Company for 30 years. My mom was a school teacher, then turned nurse. And, you know, the traditional path of professional, uh, kind of professional life, you know, set forth in front of me. And it really wasn’t until after grad school that I, just by luck, uh, fell into a joint venture. I was 15th employee, uh, a joint venture, uh, really started to cut my teeth on. Wow. If I make a decision, it actually matters. Something actually happens or doesn’t happen. Um, and it really, uh, got me excited about, you know, being part of a small team and being part of this crazy ride that I now understand to be, um. Entrepreneurship, uh, three years after that made the official jump and, uh, was a co-founder of an automotive marketing technology company, uh, Enterprise Data, we launched in 2008.

Brian Dukes: Uh, our first client was soon to be bankrupt. Chrysler, uh, many, many horrific, difficult, challenging, ridiculous stories that came out of those next couple of years. But ultimately, we made it to the other side. Um, ran M&A through that process, saw, um, you know, saw the positives and negatives of M&A throughout. And then I personally exited in 22, reconnected with an old friend who was also, uh, an aspiring entrepreneur. And, you know, we really connected to this idea of M&A, helping business owners understand and successfully get through an exit is is just a, It’s an underserved market. I like to say that it’s really cool to help a business owner sell $1 billion business, but there’s just not enough people focused on helping the everyday entrepreneur in lower middle market and SMB to find the exits they deserve. And so, you know, that’s really you know, it’s a little bit of my journey, a little bit of my why. But I feel really passionate and love working with business owners and thinking about their futures and really helping them get on a path of what that what that future might look like.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, I love that. So can we talk just for a minute about what makes Exitwise a little different from all of the other businesses that are out there doing?

Brian Dukes: Yeah, yeah, I appreciate you asking that because we can all look very similar. If you go to 100 different M&A advisory firm websites, many of them look very, very, uh, like they were designed by the same by the same web site house. Um, really a couple things. The first, uh, which I’ve, I’ve touched on a little bit, is this idea of everybody that’s part of this business. We are, are and have been operators that have built and sold our own businesses. Uh, we know not just what it takes to build a business and what it takes to exit a business. We we understand the trials and tribulations that are inherent with entrepreneurship. And as much as we’re led to believe that, you know, you can build a business, $1 billion business in six weeks with AI, uh, by yourself, uh, for for the rest of the 99.999% of the world. Um, we have a lot of horror stories and bumps and bruises. And I think, um, you know, where we come from is a place of, of empathy and understanding that this is a difficult road and that as founders, uh, as owners, as CEOs, uh, your time is constrained and you have a lot of, uh, a lot of responsibilities and a lot of things to worry about. And exiting isn’t always, um, you know, top on your list.

Brian Dukes: And so we we really beyond being a functional M&A advisors and bankers, you know we are there to be a coach a mentor having actually done it ourselves and provided maybe a little bit different insight and guidance than, than the typical investment banker. The second, um, is, is in our preparation or support of the preparation process. Uh, we’re big believers. You’ve heard me say it before in some of our conversations. Um, I think exiting a business, there’s a bit of a stigma around it. And, uh, part of that is, as CEOs, we’ve always kind of known the answer. We’ve we’ve known what we’re building. People come to us whenever they have a question, and we’re used to knowing what to do. And, uh, when it comes to, to, to selling a business, oftentimes we’re not lucky enough to, to do it multiple times. And so we don’t know who to go to. We don’t know who to trust. We, uh, we have built something so important to us and to our team and to our families that we, we, we struggle to to lean into somebody that can assist us in selling. So what that means is you put it in a closet and you hope that it just works out someday down the road. And then somebody knocks on your door one day and says, hey, you have something interesting and a value.

Brian Dukes: I’d like to buy it. And it’s like chaos reigns. And and that is ultimately why you see such a high failure rate in M&A. So getting back to your question, our big beliefs, uh, is, is working with businesses earlier in the process, understanding value, understanding how buyers would look at your business, really making it. You know, another CEO responsibility is thinking about your future exit. And that could be, you know, ten weeks from now, it could be ten years from now. It’s really thinking about it in a way that’s, uh, exiting my business is part of my responsible as an owner, and I need to start preparing. And so we just spent a lot of time early doing certified valuation work, helping organize financials in a way that a buyer could potentially understand. Um, you know, I said it already, the idea that we give you the view of the buyer and we we help you practice answering some of those questions, um, and thinking through the questions that you’re going to get from potential buyers to start preparing for that when you, you know, when you have time for it versus the stress of I have to respond in the next ten minutes and I don’t know the answer. Yeah.

Trisha Stetzel: All right. I want to tackle the idea of doing the hard things. So people who are listening have done a lot of that right. As entrepreneurs, we do. We tackle a lot of doing the hard things and we learn our lessons. We, you know, fall down on our knees, we get up and we go do it again. And then we fall off a bicycle and, you know, it’s perpetual. Um, so they’ve already done a whole lot of hard things. You’ve done them. I’ve done them as an entrepreneur, and thinking about this exit process sounds really hard too. So can you take me through just your thoughts on doing the hard things? You know, whether it’s personal or professional and what really makes us tick as humans?

Brian Dukes: Mm. Boy, I can take that in a lot of different directions. I’m a firm believer, just generally in doing hard things. Uh, we we, I think we’re trained at an early age that we have some mythical retirement. Or maybe we sell a business, you know, for a real amount of money early in our careers. And we sit on a beach and play golf or sail or fish or whatever we want to do. And, uh, I like to do many of those things. Uh, and I love being with family and friends, uh, and leaning into that part of my life. With that said, uh, for most humans, um, we need we need to accomplish tasks. We need to take on challenges, we need to do hard things. And I often say as I mentor, um, even, you know, junior resources, it could be like rewiring your bathroom, uh, putting up wallpaper. Um, you know, it could be building a business. You know, it can be really anything. Learning a new language. Um, it’s. I’m a big believer that a life without challenges is one that ultimately I don’t think is particularly fulfilling. So that’s just a personal belief. I don’t know that it’s a hot take in any sense, but I just I talk to enough business owners that go through a process.

Brian Dukes: They get to the other side, and then they’re somehow disappointed because they haven’t they haven’t built a plan for that future. Um, they realize too late that, um, it isn’t going to be fulfilling to travel around the globe 20 times. Um, you know, the first time was really, really fun. But after a while, you know, you just you just kind of, you know, you need to accomplish something different. And so I think doing hard things is, is really, um, you know, is a core belief of mine. Um, I guess specific to, to building and selling businesses, uh, I think, uh, I don’t know that any M&A advisor investment banker would say that selling a business is easy. But as you look at the, uh, this the scope or the scale of that discomfort or that pain or the difficulty of selling a business, it does not have to be a root canal. Um, it does not have to be emergency surgery. The just like, you know, many, many other analogies in life of, you know, studying for a final exam. Of course, it’s going to be horrific when you have to stay up all night and cram.

Brian Dukes: And ultimately the pain of probably not doing as well as you as you want. Now. Now you think about selling a business. And if you’re trying to to cram. If you’re trying to prepare with no time, invariably mistakes will be made. Money will be left on the table, other opportunities will be lost. And you have, you know, I’ll speak from personal experience. I regret some some bad final exam scores. It’s completely different to regrets like, oh my gosh, I left $1 million on the table because I just wasn’t prepared. And that’s a that’s a different process. So the idea of hey, we’re all busy as business owners, big or small, your your day is filled with life and work. Uh, adding another task to your to do list can feel really, really hard. Like, I don’t want to deal with this today, but if you can find a way to take on small tasks, work with advisors or partners or experienced founders that have gone through it to take on small tasks each day, each week, when it comes time to get to the big day, it’s not going to be nearly as painful as as it otherwise would have.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that preparedness and plan. Okay, before we go there though. I know there are people who already want to reach out and have a conversation with you. What is the best way to connect?

Brian Dukes: Uh, our our website is xyz.com. Um, I’m most active on LinkedIn. Um, look me up there. Uh, I post a lot of educational content around building and exiting. And my email address. Brian b r I a n at xyz.com. That’s great. Thank you. Great.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. And if you guys are looking for him on LinkedIn, it’s Brian Dukes. D u d u k e. All right. I want to dive into the part that we’re both even more passionate about than the first part of our conversation, which is readiness. I want to talk about readiness. What does it really mean? And why do so many business owners avoid thinking about it until it’s too late?

Brian Dukes: Um, yeah, I’ve kind of I’ve kind of talked about it, uh, or a couple examples already. But really, the my my my core belief is that a we’re too busy. I’ll get to tomorrow and b I don’t know who to talk to or to trust. And if you add I’m busy, I don’t have time for it today. And I also don’t know who who’s the expert that I trust enough to talk about something so personal. Uh, yeah. Inherently it’s just going to get delayed. And I think there’s just this, this stigma that exists that we have to keep it so private and so confidential, and we’re not allowed to talk to anybody. And oh my gosh, if my clients hear that, I’m thinking about selling. It’s the end of the world. And although I agree there’s certain aspects of that that need to be kept private, I, I believe and this isn’t me even being self-serving, I believe that more CEOs at any stage of any size businesses should be surrounding themselves with people that have been through it before that, um, maybe they’re even an M&A advisor or banker. Um, people that understand what that process is going to look like and feel like and talk openly with their teams and their employees. Um, I’ve seen firsthand the experience of despite begging CEOs to bring their team into the mix, uh, when they don’t. And then potential buyers start knocking on the door. There’s conversations that need to be had. People in suits start showing up in the boardroom. Everybody. I’m sure you’ve seen it before.

Brian Dukes: It’s like the whole office shuts down. Everybody wants to know what’s happening. The rumor mill starts spiraling out of control. And again, it it’s it’s not just the chaos of the sale. You have to keep running your business during the process. And the more distraction and chaos beneath the water’s level that’s happening, the more likely it is disappointment is going to occur through it. So again, a bit of a broken record. Readiness is is something that we’re super, super, super passionate about and understanding whether your business is worth $10, 10 million, 10 billion at any stage. Understanding, um, what is a buyer going to look at with your business, and how are they going to evaluate it? And what are the things that you could do to better, um, prepare your business for that, that future exit, uh, address things that buyers are not, um, are, not are going to question or want to dig into, um, and getting really comfortable with, um, with answering detailed questions about your business that, that you not only can tell them the answer, but you have backup documentation to prove. I was on a short aside, I was on a call yesterday with a client and we’re going through a six month project, um, of preparation prior to exit. And, you know, they were kind of validating, like, hey, you know, I’m just I’m not sure exactly, you know, what are some of the first steps or some of the things that we’re going to go through here? And he said, because I don’t like, I don’t um, I can’t really tell you how I, how I price you know, I have, you know, one of my biggest clients, they come to me and I’m like making it up on the fly.

Brian Dukes: Well, today it’s this price or yesterday it’s that price or I’m just negotiating on the fly. Like, how could you possibly Brian, document what that’s like. And I’m like, well, first you’ve just told the story of why we have to go through this process. Because if you told a potential buyer that you just make up the price on the fly like that, that’s a bad that’s a bad conversation. Your books, your financials tell that story and it’s okay. Like, don’t be embarrassed. You you may not know what that strategy is. You may not be able to quote what you’ve done for the last five years, but the books do. And if we can build a financial model that shows the history of that client, of that industry, of kind of your pricing strategy over time, and you can answer it confidently and then show the details in a financial model. Suddenly there’s no questions like, the buyer may not agree with that strategy. They may not like that strategy. They may see huge opportunity in that strategy of like, oh my gosh, you’re leaving so much money on the table here. Uh, but there’s no question of I don’t understand what I’m looking at, uh, because the moment they don’t understand what they’re looking at, that leads to ten other questions. And then we just get into this death spiral.

Trisha Stetzel: Okay.

Brian Dukes: Sorry a lot there.

Trisha Stetzel: No, I know I think this is fantastic. I love the conversation that we’re having so far. Um, and I think I hear what you’re saying is that everyone will exit their business. Everyone will exit their business.

Brian Dukes: We will all exit our business at one point in our lives. Yes.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah. Okay. So, uh, as you were talking through that last scenario, I was thinking about owner dependance, and I think that that’s a really big topic when we’re talking about exit strategy or preparedness or readiness. Can we talk a little bit more about how important it is that a business not be dependent on one person?

Brian Dukes: Sure. Yeah. Uh, and the answer can be different depending on how big your, your, your business is. One of the, the struggles that a lot of smaller businesses face is okay, great. I don’t want this business to be dependent on me, but I can’t afford to go hire a massive team to support me. And and so of course, if you’re a bigger business and you’re still dependent on the CEO, you have a little bit more flexibility to go, uh, either enable your, your, uh, your team, your, your executive team or the trusted folks around you start enabling them to make more decisions, to be more involved in the process, to document those processes, to have a voice. Uh, it’s always the, you know, a good test to, you know, hey, can you go on vacation for two weeks and not pick up the phone? Um. What happens? Um, it’s a good test. Um, but for a larger business, um, I wouldn’t say it’s not as complicated, but there’s more flexibility because it’s easier for you to go add to the team or supplement your role. Um, just through pure scale. When you’re a smaller business, you can’t just go hire three people to, uh, to manage your day or to do many of the tasks because the financials may not support it. And so our best guidance there is start with documentation to the example I just gave. That’s a that’s a I wouldn’t say a small business, but it’s not a huge business. It is very owner dependent. And so you can hear it in my story. Right. He’s he’s worried that this asset is unsellable because everything’s in his head. Well the answer isn’t to go hire three people. The answer is let’s dig in and understand what this business is all about.

Brian Dukes: It’s not just about documenting process. It’s about documenting process, understanding the business. How do you win today? How do you win the week? How do you win the month? And then starting to to understand what the real answer is to some of these questions that for the owner they’re very vague. But as I said before, the books tell the story like you can you can create the picture of what this business actually is or what it does or how it operates. And once you have that picture, you can even at a small business, you can either outsource, find small, uh, you know, from a financial perspective, bookkeepers that can help keep you on task and take over more of the billing and invoicing. You can you can bring on interns or virtual assistants or even, you know, AI in certain instances to take over some of the basic tasks, uh, of what you’re doing day to day and then allow you to do owner things like focus on the big ticket items. I don’t think it needs to be this super complicated, uh, situation of like, well, I’m, you know, I’m only a $2 million a year business. There’s no way I could hire three people. So I’m just. There’s nothing I can do. Like, it just is what it is. Um, I’m never going to be able to figure this out. And it’s overwhelming because they know how many things they do. Well, if you go through a process of documenting, working with advisors and operators that have done it before, you’d be surprised at how much efficiency that you can gain by knowing, organizing, and then finding small ways to outsource or supplement your time without having to go hire a huge team.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, you don’t have to do it alone, even if you are alone, right? I, I love what you said earlier about having people who have done it before you in the room. And I talk a lot about, um, who’s in your room? You need to have people who are bigger, better, faster, stronger than you in your room, always helping you get where you want to go. So you guys, I don’t care if you’re not even thinking about exit planning. I want you to do something today that’s going to get you where you need to be to exit your business later. So what piece of advice would you give to those who are listening, who haven’t even been thinking about exit planning, but heard you say, Brian, everyone will exit their business one way or another. What can they do today to just take that next right step to prepare for the inevitable?

Brian Dukes: I think the, um, the easiest suggestion that I give to any CEO or business owner is go find 2 to 4 hours of time without your cell phone. A weekend, a morning and evening. Just go find a block of time and have a notebook and let the body and the mind calm down. Some people enjoy having a glass of wine as they kind of relax and try to be really thoughtful about if you could design your business, your business’s exit in the next 5 to 10 years, what would that perfect world look like? And it’s not just I want $100 million in my bank account that’s, you know, that’s great. Everybody wants a little bit of money. This is what do I want for my people? Like, how do I put that that person that has helped me push this business forward. What is their ideal situation like? What am I trying to accomplish for them? Do they want a bigger role? Do they want, um, equity? Do they want to be, you know, part of this team long term if I, you know, trying to help them have enough experience to go, you know, build their next company. Um, who’s the ideal buyer? Right. Is it, is it, uh, somebody local in your market? That is going to is going to take care of the asset that you’ve built or is it, you know, a strategic, maybe even competitor, like, what would that feel like to have that conversation or a really big, you know, private equity, get some negative stigma sometime. But the idea of more of a financial buyer, somebody that’s, um, you know, they’re not going to be as focused on your people.

Brian Dukes: They’re buying you for more of a financial win for themselves. But long story short, sitting down and really trying to be thoughtful of designing, like, what is what do I want out of that exit in the future? And how do I feel about that exit? And what do I want to do in my in my life? And it’s one of those things could be I just want to run this business until I, I can’t run this business any longer, and that’s okay. But it also, even if that’s the case, it helps you think about and be honest with yourself of like what you’re trying to accomplish with this asset that you’re building and the life that you’re trying to design and the lives that you’re impacting with the employees that you that you have. To me, one of the one of the the the only things that are worse than not doing anything is trying to do something in regards to exit planning, but not knowing what you want as the end game. Um, it’s like any other analogy in life, you know, if you, if you start running down a road and you don’t know where you’re going, like, you might as well not run. Um, it’s I think it’s so important kind of the theme of some of our, some of the things we’ve already talked about of like really being thoughtful of the life that you’re trying to build and what you want to accomplish, and understanding that the thing that you’ve built is probably going to impact others. I had a CEO who we had done a really nice job, I think planning for the exit, who had been really thoughtful of putting, uh, his employees in great position.

Brian Dukes: A lot of people, you know, they made some life changing money. Um, as part of the acquisition. And he called me a couple weeks later and he said, we didn’t talk about it around the dinner table a whole lot during the process. But I told my kids over dinner last night that we sold the business, and the kids started crying. Um, because they had grown up knowing my dad and mom, you know, are the owners of this thing. And now my my, my dad doesn’t have a job. He’s out of work, right? As children, they don’t understand the implications. And it really struck me that, like building a business is is, you know, a community effort and, you know, being really thoughtful of like, what this means to your employees, to yourself, to the, you know, who’s the ideal buyer? Even your kids, I think I think it’s a really important thing now, functionally, um, a bit self-serving. You know, we always start our relationships with clients saying, understanding what your business is worth going through evaluation process, organizing your financials, and just getting a really high level understanding of what it is that you’re building towards is really important. Um, that’s our starting point of where we where we begin with every client and we think it’s it’s a great place to start. But, you know, I just I’d really encourage people to be really, uh, try to quiet it down and really be thoughtful about what that future looks like.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, I love that. Something that I’ve seen through our entire conversation today is the care that you have for the people that you’re working with. And I really feel like another special thing that you’re bringing to your clients is this idea of building a relationship. And I see that and I think it’s very thoughtful. So, yeah, thank you for for doing that. Because oftentimes when people think about exit or M&A or those words come out of anyone’s mouth, it sounds cold, Right. It doesn’t sound like a relationship or some place where someone really cares, and I see that coming from you. So thank you for bringing that to our conversation today. So I happen to hear from a little mouse that if folks are listening and they want to engage in a first step with you, that you might give them a special deal. I’m just saying. Um, would that be the case, Brian?

Brian Dukes: Yes, please. Uh, thank you for mentioning that. Um, and yes, for anybody listening, uh, please email me, uh, Brian, Brian at xyz.com. Uh, in the in the subject to put Houston Business Radio and happy to give you 20% off, $1,000 off our valuation and exit readiness process. Uh, it’s a four week process in which we just help you better understand, um, your business, help you get a little bit organized, give you a view of what buyers are going to look at, and you get to spend a little bit of time with myself and my team. And, you know, we’d love to be helpful, so please reach out.

Trisha Stetzel: Love that. Thank you Brian for that. I really appreciate it. And thank you so much for your time today. This has been an amazing conversation and I can’t wait to have a follow up. I think we should do this again in a few months.

Brian Dukes: Anytime. Thank you. Trisha.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. All right guys, that’s all the time we have for today. If you found value in this conversation that Brian and I had today, please share it with a fellow entrepreneur, veteran or Houston leader ready to grow. And as always, be sure to rate and review the show. It helps us reach more bold business minds just like yours and your business. Your leadership and your legacy are built one intentional step at a time. So stay inspired, stay focused, and keep building the business and the life you deserve.

 

Paul Thornton: The Leadership Formula for Performance and Balance

January 19, 2026 by angishields

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Paul-ThorntonPaul Thornton is a seasoned author, leadership coach, and speaker dedicated to helping individuals lead with clarity, purpose, and performance under pressure. With decades of experience teaching and consulting on leadership development, Paul has trained countless professionals to better understand their leadership styles and elevate their effectiveness in both personal and organizational settings.

He is the author of several well-regarded books, including Leadership Styles, Add Value—Improve the Status Quo, and The Leadership Process, each offering actionable tools and frameworks for today’s leaders. His signature stress management formula—D > CS = SR (Demands > Coping Skills = Stress Response)—and his widely used “Three Leadership Styles” model are just a few of the accessible concepts that have helped leaders build stronger teams and achieve sustainable results.

Paul’s approach to leadership is rooted in responsibility, communication, and self-awareness. His work continues to influence emerging and seasoned leaders alike, empowering them to not only perform at their best but also inspire meaningful impact in the people and organizations they serve.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-thornton-5061216/

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Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX studios in Houston, Texas. It’s time for Houston Business Radio. Now, here’s your host.

Trisha Stetzel: Hello, Houston. Trisha Stetzel here bringing you another episode of Houston Business Radio. It is my pleasure to introduce my guest today, Paul Thornton, a seasoned author, speaker and leadership coach who spent his career helping people lead with purpose and perform under pressure. Paul is the author of several books, including Leadership Styles and the Leadership Process. His practical frameworks like this three leadership Styles model, and his simple stress management formula, which we’re going to talk about D is greater than CS equals. Sr helps leaders boost performance while maintaining balance with decades of teaching and coaching experience, Paul brings a clear, actionable approach to leadership, one rooted in communication, self-awareness, and responsibility. Today, we’ll talk about how to lead effectively, manage stress, and bring out the best in yourself and others. Paul, welcome to the show.

Paul Thornton: Trisha, thank you for having me on. Um, I’m pleased to be part of your podcast.

Trisha Stetzel: Thank you. It’s so exciting to have you on today. And we’ve got some really interesting topics that we’re going to cover. But before we get there, I’d love for you to tell us a little bit more about Paul.

Paul Thornton: Okay. I spent 20 years in corporate America, and I was primarily in the human resources department in a variety of roles. I spent a lot of time in training and development. Uh, the company I worked at was a big company. We had about 300 managers, and I spent a lot of time helping them become better leaders. Uh, we had a training staff of about six people that reported to me. And basically we put on seminars and workshops and gave feedback and coaching and what have you. Uh, secondly, I spent about 20 years as a college professor. I taught leadership and management type courses and, um, dealt with students and helped them become more effective managers and leaders as much as I can if they were in that role currently. Um. I’m married. I’ve been married for a long time, 50 years. And, uh, to the same person, I might add. And, um, we have, uh, two children, and I have five grandsons, so that keeps me busy watching them play sports. And, uh, you know, seeing them as much as we can.

Trisha Stetzel: That’s beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. And congratulations. It takes work to be with the same person for 50 years. It’s it’s yes, it is beautiful and it is amazing. But it also takes work. And we all have.

Paul Thornton: Yes.

Trisha Stetzel: That. Yep. And five beautiful grandsons. That’s so exciting. Paul. Um, the last we spoke just a few weeks back when we were talking about you coming on the show, you brought up the 3DS, which I think is very interesting. So can you explain how well one what they are and then how each works when and when leaders should use them?

Paul Thornton: Okay. Yeah. I um one thing I try to do, Trisha, is really simplify things. And in studying leadership, I found that a lot of experts and researchers and what have you come up with, you know, seven, eight, nine, ten different styles of leading. And I don’t think it’s that complicated. So I boiled it down to three basic styles. Leaders use directing, discussing and delegating. So the three D’s directing, you tell the person what to do, how to do it, when to have it done. By discussing you ask questions like you’re doing today. Questions about what should the goal be? What should the plan be? What obstacles do you see? Things like that. Delegating is empowering the person to take action. Do what they need to do to get the task done. I think every day parents, teachers, coaches, managers, leaders use each of these styles. Matter of fact, I think in the same meeting, you know a leader will use all three styles? Um, the big point is you need to use the right style at the right time. If a person has no experience on something, on a task you have assigned them, you know they’ve never done it before. They’re clueless. They don’t know what to do. They want and need direction. They want the steps to take. They want to know you know what’s expected, how to do it. They need help. They need structure.

Paul Thornton: They need the step by step formula to follow. So directing is appropriate. Directing is also appropriate in emergencies. You know, in an emergency situation you got to have someone who’s going to step up and make decisions quickly and efficiently and tell people what to do and where to go and that type of thing. Um, discussion is more appropriate when the person has had some experience and some know how. And you want to understand how they’re thinking about something, you know. So you’re asking them questions. How do you see the goal? What would your plan be? Or how would you proceed? What steps would you take? What obstacles do you see? So you’re getting a sense of how do they think about it? How would they approach it? And maybe they’re on course. Maybe they do it exactly the way you’d like. Or maybe their approach sounds better than what you even thought of. Or maybe they’re off a bit. So as a leader, you’re coaching them a little bit, you know? Okay, that’s a good point you made. But remember you know this and that and giving them some advice and guidance. Um, if you’re using a delegating style, if a person has lots of experience, you know, they’ve done the task multiple times, they know what to do, or they can figure it out very quickly. You want to empower them and just say, okay, here’s the deadline.

Paul Thornton: This is what you get done. You figure out how to do it. You take the steps you need to take. You just get it done. Hit the deadline. You know, if you need any help from me, come and ask a question or whatever. But you’re empowered. You get it done. So each style is appropriate in certain situations and helps the person. I think that’s what a leader does, helps the person achieve the goal, uh, that they need to achieve. The problems occur when people when leaders use the wrong style. You know, uh, some leaders micromanage. You know, the person’s done the task a whole bunch of times, but the leader’s still telling them what to do, you know, and they’re watching over and giving feedback and and all that. So that’s not good. It demotivates the person. On the other hand, some leaders delegate things to people that have no idea what to do, and they walk around aimlessly thinking, I have no idea what to do. So that’s not good either. So using the appropriate style is important. And again what I said before. Parents, teachers, coaches you know managers, they use these all the time. There’s nothing big and magical about this. But they’re very useful. And it’s good that the better you get at you using each style, the more effective I think you are as a leader.

Trisha Stetzel: Mhm. Absolutely. Uh, so good. I’ll call them exceptional experience leaders know how to use all three of these directing, discussing and delegating. So for new leaders out there who are leaders who want to get better, how can they improve in these areas. Because I see a lot of leaders who find one they’re really good at, and then they just stick to it. We can just take the micromanager. Not that that’s a good skill, but sometimes we see them stick to the thing that’s most comfortable. So how, as a new leader, do I get better in all of these areas so that I can be an exceptional leader?

Paul Thornton: Mhm. Well I think with directing you need to think about being a better communicator and you need to think about what context of what background information does the person need. Secondly, you got to think about how much detail does the person need. And sometimes writing it down you the manager or parent or teacher writing it down. So it’s really clear in your head before you sit down and communicate with that person. I think those types of things help us when you’re directing. Of course, asking questions at the end of it, are you clear on what you need to do and maybe even having the person feed feedback to you, the steps they’re going to take or what they’re going to do for a second and third. Um, with discussion, I found, um, for myself, uh, if I was, you know, I was if I was running a meeting, I would in advance of the meeting, write down the questions that I was going to ask. Actually, I get to the point when I was setting up, setting up an agenda for the meeting, I would often put the agenda item in a question like we need to do. Make a decision of who’s going to lead the Christmas party or who’s going to do this or that. Um, so writing your questions down in advance is a good way to make sure you’re covering the points that you want to cover with delegating.

Paul Thornton: Um, it’s thinking about who to delegate to, who has the appropriate background and skills and can take on the task. Um, Um, it’s also, you know, doing the delegating and learning as you go, getting feedback. Did I select the right person? Did they do the task as I had hoped? Um, what can I learn about myself in terms of the way I delegated? Did I select the right person? Uh, did I clarify exactly the end target of of what I wanted them to get done by a date? Or did I even let them figure out the what part of it, you know, let them figure out what to do? Um, so, like, with anything, you know, we need to reflect on what we’re doing, how we did it, ask for feedback. Uh, periodically ask the person you know, was that clear, the directions I gave you or that meeting we had? We had a good discussion. I thought, what did you think? You know, how could I improve? What could I do differently next time? So getting feedback, Self-reflection, asking colleagues, even, you know, uh, in that meeting that I ran today. Did I do an effective job of, you know, communicating my message, directing, discussing, delegating. What could I have done better? You know, so feedback is always something that is valuable and will help us improve. So that’s what I would suggest.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. I love how you bring things so simple to us. The three D’s directly discussing and delegating and what that looks like and how how we can improve in them as we get better at leading because we all want to do that. I’m I’m pushing that out to the world, into the universe. We all want to be great leaders. Sometimes stress will seep in. So can we talk a little bit about how we continue to thrive in this professional space, yet make sure that we’re still taking care of ourselves.

Paul Thornton: Mhm. Yeah. My my thoughts on stress I have a simple formula Trisha that you mentioned earlier. Um and it boils down to thinking about our demands. Our demands are really anything that we need to get done on a given day, the task that we have to get done. But it also includes the worries or concerns that we have. So that’s kind of our demands. Now, on a given day, you and I could each write a list of the things we need to get done today. And that list might, you know, buy milk on the way home from my job. Uh, finish a report, write a paper, um, conduct a podcast, whatever it might be. We each have a list of tasks and concerns and worries that we have. And some days our list is quite long, and other days it might be more brief. So that’s one part of the equation. The next part is our coping skills. How well do we deal with our demands and our coping skills. Not only well they include our self management skills. You know, how well do we set goals, make decisions, prioritize. Um, delegate. You know, how well do we manage ourselves day to day? It also includes what do we do to keep our mind and body in a position to deal with our demands.

Paul Thornton: So, like our diet, uh, sleep, uh, our relaxation or exercise, you know, what do we do there? Um, I meditate twice a day. I try to work out every day. So we need we each have a certain set of skills we use to deal with our demands. Now. If your demands exceed your ability to cope, you have a stress reaction. You know, when we feel overwhelmed, it means our demands have exceeded our ability to cope. And then we have some sort of stress reaction and stress can manifest itself in psychological things like worry and fear and things like that, or even physical reactions like high blood pressure, migraine headaches, ulcers, things like that, or behavioral, you know, yelling, screaming, arguing, nonproductive behaviors. Now, the thing I find is that when people are faced with a high level of demands, they typically let up on their coping skills. You know, they stop working out, they stop meditating. They stop taking time to relax and go for a walk because they want to use that time to deal with the demands. And because they’re not using their coping skills, they get more stressed out.

Paul Thornton: You know, it aggravates the level of stress. And we know that as stress increases, people’s productivity goes down. We become less effective. Our emotions and the demands that we face and all that type of stuff, you know, affect our ability to be productive and effective in doing our day to day work. So as a a leader, as a parent, teacher, whatever we need to think about, what can we do to reduce our demands? You know, can I delegate some things? Can I eliminate some things on my to do list? Can I, um, cut my meeting time in half rather than meeting for an hour? Let’s meet for 30 minutes. Or can I eliminate, um, some reports or paperwork or whatever it could be. Uh, I also want to improve my coping skills. I want to get better at communicating so I don’t have communication breakdowns. I want to get better at prioritizing my top 1 to 3 things that I need to get done each day or each month, whatever. Um, so I need to improve or keep improving my skills so I don’t get stressed out and become less effective and less productive. That’s kind of a long answer, but that’s no. It’s fantastic.

Trisha Stetzel: And there are some areas I want to take a deeper dive in. But but but before we go there, I would love for you to tell folks how they can connect with you. I’m sure just based on the first part of our conversation, they’re very interested. So where can they find you? Paul.

Paul Thornton: Uh, probably the best way is on LinkedIn. If they just put my name in LinkedIn, they’ll see my site. I, I do try to post something on LinkedIn, uh, almost every day. Um, I have a lot of, um, articles also on LinkedIn. Uh, I also would recommend, if you don’t subscribe to Smartbrief on leadership, you should. I publish an article there once a month. But there’s many, many, many great articles on there. Um, so you can see one of mine per month. Uh, but LinkedIn is probably the best way.

Trisha Stetzel: Okay, fantastic. You guys know, I’ll put the link to Paul’s profile in the show notes. His last name is spelled t h o r n t o n Paul Thornton. All right, Paul, I’d like to come back to this whole idea of being a great leader, not getting stressed out. How do we keep from letting these pressures really build up based on the things that we know we have to do? So. What are some just practical tips that you would give to people to stay in this space where we don’t forget our coping skills, or we don’t get so busy trying to take care of all of the I’m going to use the D as a distraction, but all of the things that are getting, how do we stay focused on those coping skills that we need so much to keep that stress reaction from happening?

Paul Thornton: Well, I think it’s almost you need to create some habits that you do every day. You know, habits are are can be very effective at, um, keeping you on track. As I mentioned before, I meditate twice a day and I do it religiously in the morning and evening. I work out for 30 to 45 minutes every day on the treadmill and stuff like that. So if you can create some habits like creating your to do list or identifying your top three priorities and do it at the same time every day. Make it a ritual or a habit that you get in the practice of, you know, doing it all the time. I think helps keep you grounded and focused on what you need to do. Uh, so I would strongly suggest that think about habits. I think two, we talked about reflection a little bit, and I think that’s a good habit that you need to build into your daily routine. Even taking five minutes to think about, you know, that meeting I had with this employee, did it go well? Could I have done it differently? What can I learn? What can I do better? But spending some time in reflection about meetings and interactions and things you’re doing to reflect on, are you focused on the right things? Are you being effective or what do you need to change?

Trisha Stetzel: A full calendar does not make you a good leader.

Paul Thornton: No, no, it does not.

Trisha Stetzel: We definitely need that time to reflect. And it does get out of control sometimes. You know, I look at my calendar and I’m like, what’s happening? I have no time to reflect on the conversation that I just had. So I appreciate you bringing that up. You’ve worked with and taught countless leaders over the years. So what patterns are you seeing with those who are sustaining both performance and well-being?

Paul Thornton: Um, they have balance in their lives. I think that’s important. Also, um, you know, they have a good mix of work and relaxation or proper mix of the two. Um, they step away from the day to day grind periodically. They, um, you know, can put things compartmentalized, things to an extent. And, and they find some things that they enjoy doing that take them totally away from their day to day demands. You know, it could be an athletic event. It could be, you know, going for a walk. It could be something. But they find something that takes their mind and kind of frees them up for, you know, some part of the day or week or whatever, whatever routine they’re in, whatever habit they have incorporated into their day to day life.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. I love that. And I hear a lot of people using the word integration versus balance, because we can’t always find that. Right. Yeah, but being able to step away and take a deep breath and enjoy the things that you used to enjoy before your calendar got full. Mhm mhm. Yeah.

Paul Thornton: Right.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah. Um, I’d like to. You talked about communication, and it made me think around, um, emotional intelligence. Right. The way we act and react not only to ourselves, but outwardly, to others. What role do you think self-awareness plays with managing both stress and being a good leader, or using the right leadership styles?

Paul Thornton: I think it’s very, very, very important. The more self-aware you are of your thoughts and feelings, the more capable you are of making the right decisions, saying the right things, asking the right questions. Um, I think self-awareness, you know, we talk about you need to lead yourself first before you lead others and to lead yourself, you need to be self aware And again, I think that’s a great habit. Like I said, I meditate, but doing something to become more self aware. Each day we all have blind spots. We all have things we do we’re not quite sure of, you know, the approach or how we come across. Um, my wife tells me at times I’m harsh. I don’t think I am, but she says I am, so I need to think about that, you know? So, um, yeah. So self-awareness is huge. It’s one of those things we need to keep working on all the time and get better at it. And the more self-aware we become, the more effective we are, I think, at our whole life managing our stress, managing other people, managing ourselves, you know, all of that I think gets better the more self-aware we are.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. And the good news is when it comes to emotional quotient or emotional intelligence. Whichever words we’re using now is that we can get better in each of those five areas that we measure, right?

Paul Thornton: Yeah. Yeah.

Trisha Stetzel: Really important. Okay. Uh, as we approach the back end of our conversation, I have one last question for you. If you could leave the listeners with one insight about leading others while staying grounded, what would it be?

Paul Thornton: I think the important thing is to think about, as a leader, what can you do to help the other person succeed? Um, giving them direction, giving them, you know, feedback, uh, asking them the right questions, empowering them. Your job as a leader is to make change happen, improve the status quo, make things better. And the question is, what can you do to help the person achieve that? You know, don’t focus so much on yourself, but focus on what do they need. What’s going to help them to be the best that they can be?

Trisha Stetzel: I love that, that’s fantastic. So, Paul, I mentioned at the top of the conversation that you had written some books. So tell us the names of those books and where we can find them.

Paul Thornton: Um, yeah, I’ve written quite a few books actually. Um, just finishing up my 30th book, which, uh, is a lot. I know, um, all of them are available on Amazon. Um, I think the ones that are seem to be most popular are leadership styles, which we’ve talked about today. The three D’s. Uh, I have a book on the leadership process, which also is a good one. Um, I also am a big believer in alignment, so I wrote a book about organizational alignment to achieve peak performance. That’s the name of it. I think that’s a great one. And that’s a topic that doesn’t get a lot of attention. But alignment in organizations is very important. And I also have one on managing your stress that we talked about today. All of my books are short to the point. Uh, they’re like 70, 80 pages. They’re very inexpensive, and I think they’re worthwhile to give you, you know, additional insights and additional examples and, uh, skills that you will need to be will help you be more effective. So thank you for asking.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. So you guys, you should go on to Amazon right now. And you should look up Paul Thornton as an author and add him to your favorite list. So in his 30th book comes out you get a notification. And just remember it’s Paul. Paul. Last name? Thornton. Thornton. T h o r n t o n. And you can also connect with him on LinkedIn. Paul, thank you so much for being on with me today. This has been such an inspiring conversation.

Paul Thornton: Thank you, Trisha, for having me.

Trisha Stetzel: All right, you guys, that’s all the time we have for today. If you found value in this conversation that I had with Paul, please share it with a fellow entrepreneur, veteran or Houston leader ready to grow. And as always, be sure to follow, rate, and review the show. It helps us reach more bold business minds just like yours. And your business, your leadership and your legacy are built one intentional step at a time. So stay inspired, stay focused, and keep building the business and the life you deserve.

 

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: Choose Your Battles – Leadership, Resilience, and Life Beyond the Uniform

January 19, 2026 by angishields

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Irene-GlaeserIrene V. Glaeser, COL (Ret.) is a decorated U.S. Army Military Police veteran and the CEO of Spahr, a service-disabled, woman-owned small business delivering advanced IT solutions—including cybersecurity, software development, and cloud engineering—to federal and Department of Defense clients.

Under her leadership, Spahr also manages two Small Business Administration Mentor-Protégé joint ventures with TekSynap, expanding capabilities across defense and government sectors.

Following her military retirement, Irene held senior civilian leadership roles in the Department of Defense Office of Inspector General and the U.S. AbilityOne Commission, where she advocated for individuals with disabilities in the federal workforce. Her post-service career reflects a continued passion for integrity, public service, and veteran support.

A graduate of George Mason University, Irene holds master’s degrees from Webster University and the U.S. Army War College, as well as executive certifications in national security from George Washington University. She is also a Board Member of the National Veteran Small Business Coalition and author of Choose Your Battles, a memoir that shares her journey with resilience and humor.

Irene currently lives in Wilmington, NC, with her husband of 37 years, enjoying time with her children, seven grandchildren, and fellow veterans.

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/irenevglaeser/

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Intro: Broadcasting live from the Business RadioX studios in Houston, Texas. It’s time for Houston Business Radio. Now, here’s your host.

Trisha Stetzel: Hello, Houston. Trisha Stetzel here bringing you another episode of Houston Business Radio. It is my pleasure to introduce you to my guest today, Colonel Irene Glaeser, US Army retired and CEO of Spahr LLC, a service, disabled and woman owned small business providing IT and cyber solutions to the Department of Defense and federal agencies. Irene’s career spans more than three decades of leadership, beginning as an enlisted soldier and rising through the ranks to become a military police colonel and later a senior executive with the Department of Defense Office of Inspector General. She also served with the US Ability One Commission, Advancing Communities for people with Disabilities and Wounded Veterans. She is also the author of Choose Your Battles. We’re going to talk a bit about that today, a powerful reflection on leadership, resilience and grit, both in uniform and in business. Please welcome a true servant leader, Colonel Irene Glaeser: .

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Well, first of all, I just want to say how absolutely honored I am to be on your show today. It’s very exciting. And any chance that I have to showcase the values that are, uh, servicemen and women bring to the defense industrial base. And in fact, any workforce is, um, is is a pleasure and a and just what I like to do best.

Trisha Stetzel: I’m so excited about having you on the show, Irene. And as you know, I’m also still very involved in serving after I served with the Houston Regional Veterans Chamber of Commerce, which is, I think, one of the connections that we had and why we had our first conversation. I’m so excited about letting folks who are listening to the show get to know you a little better. So can you tell us just a little bit more about you, Irene?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Okay. I’ll try. I’ve had a very lengthy and colorful career, as you, um, so kindly introduced me, but I think where I got my my actual set of work values and ethics comes from the fact that I am an immigrant child of two naturalized citizens who came having survived wars, um, from two different countries. And um, for example, my father, um, escaped Russian invasion in Lithuania and came to New York just as World War Two was really kicking off. And he always made me work right from the time that I would cut the grass with a little tiny power mower and make a few bucks. But actually, I’m sorry, I made a few cents. Um, but I was held accountable. So if I did something wrong or got in trouble, those few cents would go right back into the coffers and I’d have to go earn them again. I think those qualities made me a quite a good little soldier. Um, but I always had a strong desire to serve the country that welcomed my parents. Um, and my father was drafted upon arrival here, but by the time I was born, he wasn’t serving anymore. So what did my much older sister do? She came into the Army just after Vietnam, was one of the first women to get through Army infantry airborne training in the mid 70s. And once I saw that my big sister could do it, I said, oh, there’s nothing that she can take on that I can’t take on. So I have served in the Cold War, um, doing some really cool black market investigations and working with the German customs to do military customs. During that period, we used to have to identify Russian diplomatic vehicles and report them, and among other interesting things, I have also served in Iraq, Afghanistan and continued my service in the government. And finally, um, I took those leadership qualities forged through all those decades of training and experience to, um, forming my own company and supporting our veterans by bringing it services to the warfighter. It’s a lot of stuff, but it all ties together.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, absolutely. So I’d like to dig into that just a little bit more. You’ve gone from leading troops to leading a tech company, but what specific lesson or lessons from your military career have really shaped how you lead in business today?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : I, um, I knew you had asked me that question and I was prepared. However, I’m always prepared to answer that question because this ties into the value that every veteran brings to the table. A military service member becomes a leader the minute they put on that uniform. You from the lowliest private, are being taught how to lead. Because the day after you put the uniform on, you may find yourself in a position where you do have to leave and leadership is um, occurs at the the very lowest formations, the smallest formations of the military. So I, um, have learned to good leaders and not so good leaders on how I wanted to take the qualities such as selfless service, such as loyalty, ethics, running into danger, uh, as opposed to running away from it. And some of the lessons that I’ve learned in the military, we were always taught when you give a presentation, when you talk to your soldiers, give them three takeaways. Your your brain manages that and and retains it. So I have three takeaways from all of this. One is be authentic. I call these my three A’s, by the way, but be authentic. There’s a term that we use in the military. Does the audio match the video? Do you practice what you say? I, um, I used to have a boss when I was very young, um, a young captain who would quote Vince Lombardi. I think that was his name. Always do your best, always do what’s right, and treat others the way you would. You would want them to treat yourself. Well, I was treated pretty poorly by this individual and that was one of the bosses I learned from how not to lead.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : So I just throw that out as an example of, um, be authentic and and mean what you say and make sure others know that you mean what you say and you’re presenting every day your best self. And the next a is also hold yourself accountable. Um, good leaders accept that the challenges that people face, that work for them, and maybe the outcomes that aren’t, um, the most favorable. And maybe you could call them mistakes, but own them. Own your own. In the military, when a soldier or officer accidentally misplaces a piece of equipment, the consequences can be very severe, whether that is a weapon or a radio, a whole number of things. But every person in that entire chain of command all the way to the top gets held accountable. So this is a quality that we learn and that we bring to the work workforce. And it’s natural to us veterans. And the final one is accessibility. So make yourself accessible. There’s an open door policy that, um, most leaders have to allow soldiers to come in and get on their calendar and say what’s on their mind. It can get a stigma sometimes because your immediate supervisor may think, hey, she’s going over my head. But the point of the whole thing is you’re there. And if a soldier feels uncomfortable talking to their squad leader or their platoon leader, they have the permission to go to that commander. And it’s not abused. It’s usually because something perhaps might be going on that they feel they need to go to the next level with that conversation. So accountable, authentic and accessible. Those are my three A’s.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that. Thank you for sharing. And I think you and I should write an article about does the audio match the video? I love that. I might steal it if that’s okay.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Well, it’s out there, so it’s all yours.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that. Okay, Irene, so many veterans face challenges transitioning from the military into civilian leadership roles. What helped you really find your footing as you made that transition?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Um, first I want to talk about the word transition. If you enter the workforce and you change jobs After several years, you call it. Congratulations. You accepted a new role. Um, you got a promotion. You switched agencies. Guess what? If you’re a military service man or woman, by transitioning, you mean I’m not just getting a new job. I am putting aside a lifetime of danger. And that might be three years, actually. Or it may be all the way to retirement. But the qualities that I have, the, um, environments that I have worked in, have caused me to very often be in a state of constant movement and, um, you know, making rapid decisions in fluid environments and transitioning is there because you’re you’re taking those skill sets to an entirely different environment that could be slow paced, that could not, um, always recognize the qualities and value that you bring to the table. Sometimes you take, um, uh, enter a job and you realize, well, maybe that isn’t exactly how I want to spend the next 5 or 10 years, because I was trained to do this, and I don’t feel like I’m using that. And so when we transition, there’s a lot on our minds. Um, and adaption, adaption to those new environments is one of the greatest things in mind. But also finding your purpose. Um, also feeling that worth that you felt when you embraced your your fellow soldiers? That was a family.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : That was camaraderie. And you seek those things in the workforce. So what helped me specifically was I knew that if I left this environment completely, I would be miserable. Um, so I thought, okay, what if I find my purpose? And that purpose does not involve getting paid? So before I found the right, right thing to do, the right positions, um, did a little bouncing around, like, like most veterans do. I made sure that I was in organizations who exist to help other veterans with their transition or helping to, um, fight for benefits. Some of these organizations are the National Veteran Small Business Coalition, where I serve on the Board of directors. Military Officers Association of America, who fights for US medical benefits, retirement benefits, lobbies every day on Capitol Hill, and also just local events coming out for Military Appreciation Day at the local university. Carrying that flag out with so many other veterans onto the baseball field, all of those activities bring me joy and purpose, when sometimes it doesn’t always feel like you get that on a daily basis from wherever you land. So my recommendation is find your tribe. Everything else, the networking you make there will lead you to a paid tribe, perhaps. Or you find that the nonprofit world is the world that you want to remain in.

Trisha Stetzel: Oh my goodness, find your tribe and I feel like your three A’s apply here as well. The, uh, being authentic, accountable and assessable as you transition from what you knew in the military to being a civilian. I thank you for that. That is just beautiful. So, um, I know folks are already ready to connect with you. Irene, what is the best way for folks to reach out?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Well, I, um, I’m glad you asked, because I am a creature of one social platform. Social media platform. This has a lot to do with focus for me. I feel like a lot of people do that. Digital, um, spending too much time on these platforms can really distract you from your focus. So I use LinkedIn, where I’ve gained so many connections, many of whom I served with because I have served for for decades in some form or fashion in the past, but it’s also very effective way to promote your own small business, promote your own brand, and get that out there so that other veterans who may have an interest in talking to you for whatever reason, um, can find you accessible. So I am accessible on LinkedIn messaging. Um, please find me. I believe I’m the only Irene Glaeser: , not just on LinkedIn, but in the, uh, what do you call it, the the metaverse. You, um, you can Google my name, and I’m the one that pops up. It’s nice having an uncommon name.

Trisha Stetzel: That’s right. She is not hard to find. So if you’re searching for her on Google or LinkedIn, her last name is spelled g l e s e r Irene Glaeser: . Okay, Irene, back to talking about you. I’d love for you to tell us more about spa. What kind of work you do, and what makes your team’s approach unique in serving federal clients?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : I went into the IT business for several selfish reasons. I know that the Army, I’m sorry the government spends billions of dollars on information technology. It, uh, requirements change not hour by hour, but minute by minute. And so what better field to go to where? Challenges from a constantly changing landscape, um, are something that come naturally to me. And in addition to that, information technology in the now now called Department of War Or provides direct support to the warfighter on the battlefield. The government and and Department of War bring technology to enable warfighters around the around the globe, and I find that purposeful and exciting. And the last thing I’ll say about that is I’m a lifelong learner. I think we should all be lifelong learners. So webinars, classes, attending conferences is something that keeps my brain sharp and I believe keeps me young, at least at heart.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that, and if you guys are looking for that business, it’s spelled s p a h. And of course it’s associated with Irene you can find. Just Google it and you guys will find all the information that you’re looking for about both her and her business. Okay, Irene. This is the thing that I’ve been waiting to get to. I’m so excited about choose your battles. This book is both personal and powerful. What inspired you to write it, and what do you hope that readers will take away when they read it?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : So that’s a two pronged question. Of course, it was born of the fact that my grandchildren will grow up and never know the first thing about the Cold War or, or how their grandparents have served. I am, uh, obviously a daughter of a service member, a sister, a wife, my own soldier, myself, and then my son and so many other relatives, and in one case, our grandparents, I’m sorry, our grandkids, all of their grandparents and parents served. So how exciting is that? Um, I wanted to get those stories down. My own style. And in case it hasn’t come through, is I like to poke fun at myself. So I was going to take topics that are pretty intense and make them funny. Um, you almost have to read it to see exactly what I mean by that. But what really? And I’ve gotten so much feedback. It’s the best selling book. There’s a lot of wonderful reviews on there. Um, some by people I don’t know, mostly by people I’ve served with. And what inspires them is the fact that you can find humor in adversity. For example, in airborne school, I’m standing there in what they call a chalk. It’s sort of a equivalent of a squad. And two of the men next to me, which, by the way, everyone was a man that’s in the book, um, stood about the same height, and we were issued the ugliest black glasses that you’ve ever seen, although I think they sort of came back in style, but a little nicer. Just ask Denzel Washington. But but when we were, um, we were issued these black glasses that people called RPGs, rape prevention glasses.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : And, uh, and the two guys next to me in this squad were just like all of us. We looked ugly. Um, they had shaved heads and they had their black glasses, and, uh, we women, we were marched to the P.x. And they didn’t shave our heads, but they cut them or permed them pretty, pretty rotten. But these guys, the the instructors, which were called black hats. You ate and ate, junior. Now, if you’ve ever seen the movie E.T., that’s a very endearing critter. But I wouldn’t call him attractive. So he referred to them as ate and ate. Junior. And you’re sitting there sweaty and filthy and tired and and unsure of whether you’re going to make it through the next day, much less the next hour. And this instructor, who we all fear Blackhat, has me laughing. Then you get in trouble for laughing. It’s just crazy. It’s just crazy. But it’s so much fun. Trish and I wanted to inspire. Inspire people who feel discouraged, um, who feel like they don’t have worth to look at their own careers and kind of see this, this lifelong pattern of of growing, of learning, of being able to laugh at yourself. Of appreciating the camaraderie that’s all around you. I think it’s a lot of fun and I’m really glad I did it. It was hard. Um, I had to face down memories, good and bad. And I’ve been asked to write another one. I don’t know if I’ll do that, but there’s so many more funny stories.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that. All right, Irene, where can listeners find your book?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Um, actually, that’s even easier than finding me. Because if you go on Amazon and type in, choose your battles, if you throw my name after that, it will be the first thing that pops up. I think Katy Perry sang a song called Choose Your Battles. I have a little competition on Amazon, but not much. You can find it there, and every once in a while I sort of morbidly in my mind, Google myself. Um, and maybe morbid is the wrong word, but with great trepidation. And I’ve found it’s been translated in Denmark, somewhere in Latin America, in Germany, the Netherlands. And I was really surprised to see that it’s on Barnes and Noble online. It’s in a lot of locations, Amazon just being the one at the top of my head where it it has sold the most copies.

Trisha Stetzel: I love that and I encourage you guys to save Irene Glaeser: as your favorite author in Amazon. So when she does write her next book, you’ll get a notification. I’m just saying.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Irene Frisch I didn’t even know that features out there. So thank you for that shameless plug. I really appreciate it.

Trisha Stetzel: All right. If it’s okay with you, maybe something a little more personal, you know, balancing the work that you do with being a mom and a wife and having a career, and also all of the serving that you do. None of that is a small feat. So what advice do you have for the women who are listening today that are trying to balance purpose and family?

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : I’m glad you asked me that. I’m glad we didn’t, you know, finish up without talking about the women. Um, what I have learned. Because, honestly, I became a mother very early on in my career. Early on, I had to pretty much conceal the fact that I was a mother. Best I could, which presented an enormous amount of stress. But I talked to women in the boardroom today who struggle with the same problems. They’re in the middle of a presentation. They’re in the middle of a high pitched sale, and they get a call that their kid has a fever and needs to go home. It’s what I tell women is that you will always feel like you’re, um, only halfway doing the job of motherhood and halfway doing the job of your, um, profession. Um, well, you always feel that way. You feel like bad mom, bad employee. I would flip that to say, maybe you’re doing 80% in both of those arenas. Stop being so hard on yourself. 80% and 80% add up to way more than 100. Um, but it goes back to find your support group.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : I’ve, I’ve lived in I’ve lived in areas where I was the only military mom, and I felt very much the, the, the pressure from the moms who chose to stay home and that that’s a tough job. It’s a job I chose not to do. It’s hard. But don’t make me feel ashamed. And I won’t make you feel ashamed that you chose this kind of work. Being a full time mom. And I chose this kind of work. Being a mom on top of a full time career. Both are hard. Both are hard. And you, you throw a lot of challenges in there. Like military moms have to deploy. Military moms have to be gone for a year because that’s how long they’re going to be in some training environment. I missed my daughter’s high school prom. I, I missed a lot of things. And while I felt guilty forever, they are parents. They appreciate. And they’ll tell me the hard work and sacrifice that their mother made. They want to do the same things. So don’t be hard on yourself, ladies.

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah, it’s so important. All right, as we close, the last thing that I’d like to pick your brain on today is exactly what you were talking about. Which is we can’t be too hard on ourselves because we are giving and giving and giving and giving in so many places. What mindset shift? What kind of tools do we need to get out of that? Oh my gosh, I’m not doing a very good job to. I should be proud of all of the things that I’m doing. What is that mindset shift or a tool that we can use, Irene, to get from here to over here and be proud of what we’re doing.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : And that’s a good way to cap this off. Um, I’m not sure that veterans are always appreciative of their own service and sacrifice, of the fact that they raised their hand to to protect, serve, and defend our nation against all enemies, foreign and domestic. Um, this is this is a unique and special kind of person that leaves the military. And America needs to lean into and and find ways that they can absorb this type of, of a, an amazing employee into their ranks or help them with their entrepreneurship journey. Um, this being hard on oneself is sometimes born out of the very high consequences of making the slightest mistake when you’re under fire, when you’re in battle, when lives are dependent on you, and when you take that next step into the civilian workforce. Sometimes you’re being harder on yourself than the situation merits. So one of the things we don’t do well when we’re serving as take time out for ourselves. Take time for reflection. Take time for self-care. I laughed when a, um, a family member who was a nail biting war fighter, uh, after transitioning, started taking yoga. Uh, you know, we always think of women when we think of yoga. Yoga is very important to service men and women. Um, and this is something the military has been, um, slow to accept and resilience. They call it resilience training. But but if you don’t have that while you’re serving, figure out how to have that time for yourself, that time to reflect, that time to take care, um, after you’re serving. And that will help you to not be as hard on yourself as does your tribe, your your group, your support group that you find after service?

Trisha Stetzel: Yeah. Absolutely. Okay. Irene, you’re probably going to have to come back because they have so many more questions for you. This has been such a great conversation. Thank you for taking the time to spend with me today.

COL (Ret) Irene Glaeser: : Well, you remind me when you say, coming back of my fourth grade teacher who told me, you talk too much. But I like to think I have a lot to say. So I really hope that your readers and listeners, I’m sorry your listeners got something out of this. Some pearl that they can take to their daily lives. I care about veterans. Texas cares about veterans. I was researching the Texas Veterans Commission. Tap into those resources. Um, they are out there even when you feel alone. Um, and so, yes, I have days that I can talk about, uh, our veterans, their sacrifice, their service and how we can support them. And I’d love to come back. Trish.

Trisha Stetzel: Thank you so much. And, uh, thank you for continuing to serve after you’ve served. That’s so important as well. Thank you for your time today. And you guys, that’s all the time that we have with Irene. If you found value in this conversation we had today, please share it with a fellow entrepreneur, veteran or Houston leader ready to grow. Be sure to follow, rate, and review the show. Of course, it helps us reach more bold business minds just like yours and your business. Your leadership and your legacy are built one intentional step at a time. So stay inspired, stay focused, and keep building the business and the life you deserve.

 

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Stone Payton: Welcome back to Business RadioX Pro Tips. Lee Kantor and Stone Payton here with you. Lee, you and I, both probably not unlike other people who run organizations, spend a lot of time on figuring out what we should be doing next. But there’s also some wisdom in getting a handle on what maybe we should stop doing.

Lee Kantor: Yeah, it’s important to audit all the activities that you have going on, because just because something was a good idea, you know, back in the day, it doesn’t mean it’s still a good idea today. So, it’s important to do some sort of an audit on a regular basis so that you know what activities you can stop doing. And that, as you said, is just as powerful as knowing what activities to start doing.

Lee Kantor: So, if something is not moving you closer to your goal, to your true north, and it’s distracting you from it, you should stop that. I mean, that’s why auditing your habits, your meetings, your to-do lists through the simple filter of, is this creating positive momentum or is it just creating busywork? Positive momentum expands and compounds. Busywork is just keeping you busy. It’s not really moving the ball.

Lee Kantor: So, it’s important to stop. What is the busywork that’s really not serving you anymore, and double down on the activities that are. That’s what progress is. That’s where the growth can really take off.

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